Now Everyone Wants To

Know What Was In The Note?

by Sierra Silverspoon

The wires are heated up by the TV interview conducted two days before Whitney’s death on February 9, 2012.  It was with singers Brandy, Monica and Clive Davis on the E! network where reportedly Whitney Houston came up out of the audience and handed Brandy a note. (see photo)   The media, of course, is hounding Brandy to give up the contents of the note.  But in her classy style, she’s saying NO!  She says the note was personal and she’s keeping it that way.  You go girl!  On another note…On CNN the other night, did anyone else besides me hear Chaka Khan describe the most fun time she’d ever had with Whitney?  Say What?  We don’t wish to repeat it here.  Talk about unreasonable expectations!  The buzz is wild that fans are disgruntled over the rumor that Whitney’s funeral will be private.  Hello!  That is the family’s prerogative.   Word is now that Whitney’s funeral will be televised.

Lots of folks want to know why Chris Brown performed twice at the Grammys?  Was it overkill?  Actress Miranda Lambert tweeted, “I don’t get it!  He beat on a girl.  How can we act like that didn’t happen?”

On the Wedding Scene: Is it true?  We hear reports that a huge wedding in D.C. turned bizarre, when the bride changed her mind at the altar standing next to the groom-to-be, and threw her arms around the neck of the best man, professing “a real love” for him.  On a lighter note:  CNN producer, Jennifer Hauser, who lives in Atlanta, won $1000,000.00 the other day from a scratch ticket, after winning $100,000 off a scratch ticket last November.  I think I’m moving to the state of Georgia, because the word is that it’s easy to win big bucks off a scratch ticket in that state.

10 Valentine

Lessons

For Lovers

by Theodore McNee

I have discovered that great relationships come from an acquisition of personal skills that are just so necessary to couple success as the surgeon’s knife is to an operation.  The following are some steps that have been tried and proven to cut frustration, stress and aggravation in half and replace them with cool, calm and indifferent behavior in a relationship.  These tips are almost guaranteed to make the love last longer and give you peace of mind.

1. The perfect person does not exist.  If you’re looking for someone who is everything you want, forget it!   He/She is not out there!  They are not on the planet.  Learn to accept Joe, Jim, Sara or Nancy, for who they are, not what you want them to be.  Lesson: Be tolerant of those small things that are not to your liking and focus on that which is.  Make a list of which points dominate the others.  The “good” list should keep things in perspective.

2. The only power you have in a relationship is over yourself. You cannot control or expect to control another human being because you want your way.  If your mate doesn’t want to see you when you wish to be seen, don’t try to manipulate.  It’s much more fun when the interest is mutual.  Don’t push to get your way.  Love is not love when one partner is more demanding than the other.  You cannot change or influence the way someone feels about you. Lesson : It’s important in a relationship for you and your partner to be on the same page, mentally, emotionally and physically.   If these things are not in sync, perhaps you should move to another page.

3. Stop the madness before it gets out of hand. Our attitude towards our own self-respect gives others clear instruction on how to treat us.  We must nip all actions that are offensive to our psyche “in the bud.”  Lesson: Never pretend to like what you don’t like.   It adds no value to your status. More…

LOVE

LOGISTICS

Our Latest Singles Poll

by Isaac Salem and Vern Anderson

The Women Say…85% who have never married are against living with a guy before marriage.  27% of those married before, prefer living together before marriage.

In 2011, more women over 40 married for the first time since l988.

Men who have been married before make better husbands.

Special classes, the workplace, wedding receptions are the best places to meet men.  More…

Beauty

What Men Say

About Our Hair…

by M.K. Allison

We all know how important hair is to a woman’s beauty, and most of us spend a lot of money to make ourselves look good, feel good and be appealing to the male eye.

Not too long ago, I got my hair done in braids, and I was very surprised at how verbal my boyfriend was about his disdain for my new look.  When I mentioned it to my brother, he made a similar comment of disapproval, which got me to thinking about how relevant it is for a woman’s hairstyle to be accepted by the men around her.   Though I had been pleased with my braids initially, their reaction gave me second thoughts.  Two weeks later, I got rid of them after a very blunt  male friend at work told me that the skintight look that the braids formed around my face was very “unbecoming.”   Realizing that women care  deeply for the male opinion, I decided to poll 100 guys on their likes and dislikes as it pertains to the various women’s hairstyles.  They were shown photographs of various hairstyles on different celebrities and hair models. More…

Got

“The Baby

Mama Blues?”

Read This!

By Jennifer Brown Banks

You know the score.  She wants him.  You have him.  She won’t let go.  He can’t move forward.  They share a history together and kids.  You’ve got baby mama drama and confusion, conflict and petty plays aimed at sabotaging your relationship.

Late night phone calls, harassing notes on her car window and trash deliberately scattered over her front lawn are but a few vindictive acts Rita (a 32 year old teacher) has had to deal with during her decade long relationship with a guy with children. More…

The Top

Ten Social

Blunders

by Kathy Know Better

Are You One Of Those People…

• Who’s been introducing the same guy/girl as your fiancé for the last four years?

Just so you’ll know, no one is impressed, and you sound silly.  If you’ve been engaged longer than a year and your circle hasn’t changed, his/her title should be changed to “significant other” or friend.

• Who shows up at weddings, birthday parties, and graduations frequently without a gift in hand?

This is in the top 10 of Etiquette Breach 101.  The social rule is:  if you can’t take a gift, which symbolizes both appreciation for being invited and congratulations to the respective party, you should abstain from going.  Violation of this rule also insures that your name will be mentioned unfavorably at the end of the evening, the rest of the week and at the next invitation roundup. More…

Valentine

Memories

Good And Bad

by Coco Diong

For singles, Valentine’s Day is especially special, because it’s a day set aside for love.   This day can be either a stark reminder of how alone we are, (with no one to send us cards or flowers) or how loved we are.   I know few singles who fail to note the day, as it relates to their relationship status.   However, some are more cavalier about it than others.

I have one friend who gets very excited about the day if she’s in “love,” and depressed when she’s not. To her, to be alone on Valentine’s Day with no expectation of a flower delivery is one of the worst things in the world that could happen to a girl.   After talking to other women while writing this article, I found that she is not alone.  Many have good memories to fall back on…others do not. More…

SMART

Read This Before You Go Out Again!

by Coco Diong

14 Tips You’ll Never Forget

After a lengthy debate about the mechanics of dating with a friend whose brain excels in books, but vanishes at the sight of a handsome male, I decided to compile a list  to take some of the anguish out of dating.   Its purpose is to help those on the dating scene make an indelible mark on all they encounter. More…

Alone

In Jamaica

An Unforgettable Adventure

Dreams of escape, rejuvenation, high romance and intrigue await all who experience The Caribbean.  There is something about the islands, especially Jamaica that draws Europeans and North Americans out of their accustomed lives.  It’s just not the climate and the golden sands, although that’s often the excuse.  It’s the myth of freedom from all our inhibitions.  Many travel to the West Indies full of desires and fantasies mostly unexamined and frequently unnamed.  They go like moths to a flame, drawn to some powerful image of Edenic beauty and innocence, and I was no different.

I decided last year to travel to Jamaica, because of a travel documentary I’d seen on television.   I’d saved up to go, and my best friend was looking forward to making the journey with me.   I wanted to go to Negril, because it was rumored to be the most beautiful part of Jamaica, and I could barely wait.   I wasn’t seeing anyone at the time, and I was looking forward to getting away to offset my feeling alone.  More…