10 Valentine
Lessons
For Lovers
by Theodore McNee
1. The perfect person does not exist. If you’re looking for someone who is everything you want, forget it! He/She is not out there! They are not on the planet. Learn to accept Joe, Jim, Sara or Nancy, for who they are, not what you want them to be. Lesson: Be tolerant of those small things that are not to your liking and focus on that which is. Make a list of which points dominate the others. The “good” list should keep things in perspective.
2. The only power you have in a relationship is over yourself. You cannot control or expect to control another human being because you want your way. If your mate doesn’t want to see you when you wish to be seen, don’t try to manipulate. It’s much more fun when the interest is mutual. Don’t push to get your way. Love is not love when one partner is more demanding than the other. You cannot change or influence the way someone feels about you. Lesson : It’s important in a relationship for you and your partner to be on the same page, mentally, emotionally and physically. If these things are not in sync, perhaps you should move to another page.
3. Stop the madness before it gets out of hand. Our attitude towards our own self-respect gives others clear instruction on how to treat us. We must nip all actions that are offensive to our psyche “in the bud.” Lesson: Never pretend to like what you don’t like. It adds no value to your status. More…
12 Tips To Keep Him
From Cheating
On You!
by Tom Williams
I’m sick and tired of hearing women talk about how it’s in a man’s DNA to cheat. Men are not nearly as dumb as women think they are. Though enough of us do a lot to substantiate that belief, (sorry brothers) for most things as it relates to women, we know what we want and what we don’t want.
In seeking a soul-mate, we’re looking for someone who is not only beautiful, sexy and exciting, (sidebar here-sometimes sexy can obliterate fine) but strong and independent. Really! The one who can make him better and keep his ego pacified.
Ever wonder why some guys are more devoted than others? It’s because the woman who has their heart fits the following description.
She doesn’t.. 1. choose to lie 2. complain 3. ask a lot of questions 4. give excuses 5. doesn‘t go where we go. 6. do what we do 7. resent us doing what we do without her 8. doesn’t search our car, homes or phones for “cheating clues” On the other hand, she… 9. thinks for herself 10. won’t take our crap 11. inspires us to be the man we say we are 12. respects our ego and our need to feel like we’re leading.
For a man, being beautiful means nothing if a woman doesn’t have ways that excite, stimulate and keep him interested. A beautifully wrapped package only entices one to look inside. A man needs more to stay tuned in and turned on. A guy who is truly happy with who he’s with…will never cheat! I ought to know.
Tracey Ellis Ross
Our Annual Best
Dressed Celeb List
See If You Agree With Our Picks
by Sierra Silverspoon
Solange
Beyonce’s little sister is a singer/songwriter, who is known as a fashionista. She helped launched the junior apparel collection Dereon for The House of Dereon. Fun Fact: She got married at the age of seventeen. More…
MAN-SHARING
The New Dating Game
by Coco Diong
When my cousin Cecelia married a tall fine brother from Texas recently, whom she’d met on an airplane, her girlfriends were all over him at the reception asking if he had brothers, friends, uncles or cousins, who were available. When one of the women inquired about the marital status of an equally attractive cousin who was in his wedding party, he stated that though the guy was single, he was involved with someone. I laughed when the four inquisitors answered “So!” in unison. One of them even quipped, “if he ain’t married, he’s fair game!” So, I wonder…is monogamy still the pinnacle of a relationship? According to surveys yes, but it seems that more women are growing more frustrated than ever in their search for a guy of their own and many are opting to compete for the affections of those who are already connected to someone else. More…
Online Matchups
Do They Work Or Not?
We Talked To Some “Victims.”
by M.K. Allison
Singles across the country are spending more days and nights in front of the computer in matchmaker mold. Some are coming away frustrated, while others are finding true romance. More…
 New Year-New Hair?We’ve Got Some Suggestions by Gloria Gibson “A spectacular outfit is secondary to good looking hair.” A woman’s hair is her crowning glory and how she wears it, reflects her sense of style and individuality. A good cut is important in giving your hair shape and character. But most importantly, it should be flattering, not just comfortable. Your hairstyle speaks of your uniqueness, just as your clothes do. However, an unflattering hairstyle can distract from the most flattering attire. More …
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The Best Reason
For Singles
by Leslie Nicholson
A close friend began the year 2010 with a major resolve. She wanted to be married before the year was out, and she succeeded. At least, she succeeded in getting married. Though, she was the one who did the proposing. More…
Romance In The City
Stories Of The Heart
Amy & Hank
Amy sat in the dark and contemplated her choices. After careful deliberation she realized she had none. Hank had laid the cards on the table. She could either go on without him, or continue to see him at his leisure. The wedding was Sunday, and she knew without thinking that she would ease into the back of the church to finally get a glimpse of the woman she envied for the past two years. More…
Single Scenarios
Who Do You
Health
My friend was crying so when she called me that I could barely make out what she was saying. She had just come home from visiting the doctor’s office and had discovered that she was HIV positive. She blamed her diagnosis on a guy she’d been seeing for a while whom she suspected was bi-sexual. However, she had opted not to end the relationship because of her “deep attachment” to him.
Over When…
by Janice Pitts
Sometimes when a relationship is nurtured and enjoyed for a long period, having grown into something that is perceived as “worthwhile and special,” it is difficult to admit to and accept any negative changes in that relationship.
The Best You ForArriving at a better you, requires turning your attention inward. What is actually going on within – deep down inside – where the true “you” really lives? With your mind’s eye, you can look inside, evaluate what you see, and then take steps toward creating positive change. Start by getting in touch with the you that is always in a hurry, always impatient, and always moved to anger by the most trivial of matters. Those, whose daily existence involves bickering and arguing over minor matters; expecting perfection from everyone else; and feeling a general impatience with the world at large, are too hostile and may find themselves speeding down the freeway to alienation. More…
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