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7 Match Game
Moves That Worked…

by Jaclyn Steiger

I began this year with a smarter attitude about relationships.  I decided to leave behind the “blisters” and mistakes from the year before that still pushed my anger button, and focus on the lessons I learned.  I call them Smart Girl Moves because they paid off when I met my dream guy two months later.

  • Don’t wait to be approached.  If you see a guy who looks interesting, find a way to get his attention.  This calls for a sliver of imagination and a load of confidence.  However, it will not work if your self-esteem isn’t healthy.  I met tons of men by putting myself in a position to be met.  I met my dream guy who was walking his dog, by simply asking “What kind of a dog is that?”
  • Don’t ignore incompatibility.  What we enjoy helps define who we are and common pleasures are essential to a healthy relationship.  I will never again date a guy if we don’t enjoy the same things.  In the past, I’ve done too many things I didn’t enjoy just to please my date.  I went on a boat ride with one guy, knowing I suffer from motion sickness.  I became nauseated on the boat and upchucked all over his pants.  He never called again.
  • Don’t be fooled by charm.  I met a guy in January, who seemed genuine and was very attentive.  However, he turned out to be married, with two girlfriends on the side.  Just because a guy opens the door, pulls out your chair, and kisses your hand, doesn’t mean he thinks you’re special.   Sometimes, it’s the one with little or no manners, who’ll come over in the middle of the night if you need him.
  • Don’t try to change anyone.  Forget it!  You cannot reform the guy who stares at other women when he’s with you…refuses to hold your hand in public, claims others are jealous of him…notices everything about other women, and takes care of a lot of “business.”  Whenever I met a guy whose behavior was suspect, I immediately blocked his calls.
  • Insincere guys don’t sneak up on you.  The signs are always there in the beginning if you’re paying attention. If you meet a guy and he says he’s seeing someone…excuse yourself.  If he can’t get through an evening with you, without answering his cell phone 200 times…prepare your exit
  • Never admit to not seeing anyone if you’re not.  When a woman meets a man, she should never say she’s not dating anyone if she isn’t.  She should always say when asked the question.  “I have friends.”  I found out in the worst way that it makes you more exciting when a guy thinks he’s competing for your attention.
  • Forgive   It’s hard to forgive someone who has broken your heart, and it is especially hard when they don’t seem to regret doing so.  It can wipe us out to have our feelings trampled on with no compassion.  But we must forgive because our lives can be held hostage by the energy we spend licking our wounds and holding grudges.  I was finally able to forgive a guy I was dating who brought his fiancée to my home to tell me he was getting married.  This year,  I worked harder at not putting myself in the position to be hurt again, which is a pattern I had perfected in the past.

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