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The One Thing

Women Do That

Drive Men Crazy

by Theo McNee

Some time ago, a fellow scribe wrote a revealing piece on why some women behave so ridiculous toward men in social settings, after they have spent hours dressing and primping to go out in hopes of being chosen.  In it, she claimed that some of the rude behavior men encounter when we approach one of these sisters is due to the fact that we may not be the brother of choice…and that it is common for women to go out and skip over the guys who don’t fit their criteria for an ideal hook-up.

However, my question is what about the brothers out there who fit the standard? The one who most women see as desirable, and qualified to “ring their bell?” Why is he also met with standoffish behavior or an indifferent eye, when he ventures close to get acquainted, and he’s the one they’ve been hoping would come over?

My buddies and I often talk about the attitude of those women who simply lack the ability, skill or savvy to respond graciously and intelligently to a man’s approach, when they are obviously out for the express purpose of snagging a man’s attention. Unanimously, we came to the conclusion that the average woman has no idea on how to respond to a man in a social situation, and is totally clueless when the one she’s been dying to meet comes over to get better acquainted.

On more than one occasion, I’ve had a woman flirt openly with me at a party from across a room, and when I got over there, she acted as if I was intruding. Recently, while out at a sports bar one with a group of friends, a beautiful woman across the bar began staring at me so boldly and provocatively that it became disruptive to my male cool. She was so fine that I felt compelled to stop watching the game and go over in response to her body signals. But when I got there and introduced myself, she became aloof and non-communicative as if she couldn’t imagine why I was there.

black couple in bar 101217 2She stared straight ahead without ever looking at me and grunted a response as if she were preoccupied with her drink. When I attempted to plod through the cold cloud that seemed to have suddenly come upon her, by asking if she were alone, she snapped as if insulted and replied very curtly, “Why? Do I look alone?”

I shrunk back in a confused state and walked away wondering if perhaps I had misinterpreted her “come on.” But when I returned to the group and told of my experience, no one was surprised. However, they all assured me in a compassionate tone that her eye play had been directed toward me. After I regrouped, I thought of all the experiences I’d had with women in the past whose actions belied their true feelings.

I’ve had a number of women who I’ve ended up dating, act as if they weren’t interested at first and later admit they were all along, and that they were just “shy” or embarrassed about being exposed.

Therefore, I’ve come to the conclusion that these women are afraid of appearing as if they’re looking hungry, or too easy, and then because most have never attended a charm school, they are perplexed as to what to say when a guy approaches them.

I’m currently dating a woman who was so aloof when I first met her, that I was shocked when she admitted that she had been admiring me long before I ever spoke to her. She explained her cool behavior as “feminine reserve” because she thought that I had caught her looking at me.

Therefore, in the interest of female enlightenment, I took a poll among my most learned brothers on how they interpret a woman’s behavior when she’s out on the social scene and here is what they had to say.

Aloof behavior says: 

  • “I’ve had some hard times with men, and I’m afraid of them.”
  • “It’s been awhile since I’ve been with a man, and I don’t really know what to say or how to act.”
  • “I’ve been hurt and I’m afraid of being hurt again.”
  • “He’s too good-looking to want me, so he must be a player.”
  • “If I act too friendly, he’ll think he can take advantage of me.”
  • “I don’t want to appear like I have nobody, or that I’m out here looking.”
  • “I don’t know how to respond to attention from a man because I’m not accustomed to it.”
  • “He couldn’t want me.  I’m not pretty enough.

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