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Dating Data

The Dilemma

One Ring…

2 Women

by Carl Gitland

September 19, 2018

It had been a tiring drive from the airport to my apartment because I had allowed non-stop thinking to completely exhaust me mentally.  I had a problem and the need to solve it was pressing heavily on my mind.  Angela, the woman beside me had gone with me to Jamaica and it was pleasant being with her.  But I had not enjoyed her this time, like I usually did.  She loved me and everything to her was beautiful and awe-inspiring.  But it was Karen, the woman I loved, who had occupied my mind on what seemed like a long drive home.  I had lied to get away with Angela and I had lied to get back home to Karen.    MORE


The Date

by C. Mathias

September 16, 2018

When he walked in the door, I chuckled softly to myself at the sight of him and gritted my teeth.  His face was one I could never forget.  It was a handsome face with thick black eyebrows, high cheekbones and gorgeous eyes.  It was also a face I had hoped to never see again.   I had first seen it five years before at a birthday party, which had been given in my honor.  He had come as the guest of a mutual friend, and I noticed him when he walked in the door.  He had an air of distinction, which separated him from every other guy in the room.   MORE


First Date Impressions

7 Things Women

Pay Attention To…

by M.K. Allison

September 11, 2018

A recent poll shows that men are far more impressionable on first dates than women.  Men have a tendency to be captivated by a pretty face and more prone to overlook certain flaws than women. Women are considered far more scrutinizing, when sizing up a potential love interest.  In other words, they miss very little of what’s visible to the eye.  The following are things they focus on most.  MORE


Lessons From

The Front Lines:

“Now I Know…”

September 8, 2018

The Men:

Chad:  “I feel real guilty about a relationship I got involved in where I knew the woman was too nice for what I had in mind.  She was hoping for marriage or at best a serious relationship and all I wanted was fun and sex.  I felt real bad when I learned she had suffered a nervous breakdown, when I stopped seeing her.  I will never again fool with a woman who’s more serious about the relationship than I am.” MORE


A Fool For Love?

5 Clues To

Tell If You Are…

by Jovan Tahale

September 8, 2018

My friend Susan loves to say, “George and I” or “Frank and I.”  For her, having a new boyfriend is as thrilling as a roller coaster ride.  Another friend gives away her number to whoever asks for it, because she feels utterly incomplete without a man attached to her side.  She rushes into “love” faster than a train going through a dark tunnel.  On the second date with a very tall fireman, I watched as she put an overnight bag in her car, just in case she was invited to spend the night.  Each time she meets a new man, she dives into the relationship as if her life depended on it.  She usually abandons friends, family and responsibilities for the euphoric feeling of romance. Unfortunately, her “bouts of love” don’t last long.

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10 Things

To Never Say

To Your Lover

by John Andes

September 1, 2018

Never…

  1. Watch a guy struggle in a “fix it” situation, exhibit impatience, and then say “let me do it.” Talk about an ego-buster!  The words should always be “want some help honey?”  2.  Voluntarily (meaning without being asked) suggest they could stand to lose a few pounds.

 

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Dating Well…

Should It Matter

What He Makes?

by M.K. Allison

Sept 1, 2018

It all began at 3:00 a.m. in the morning.  The party was over, but there was still a number of us sitting around talking.  There were at least eleven women in the room who were engrossed deeply in the topic of conversation.  We had just finished celebrating the wedding engagement of one of our home girls, and we were especially pleased that she was marrying a brother who was not only fine, but a successful businessman as well.      MORE


How Long

Is Too Long

To Be A Girlfriend?

Real Voices…

September 1, 2018

Tiffany – “As far as I’m concerned.  One year is long enough if marriage is on your agenda. I dated a guy for five years who never mentioned marriage.  Though it was my desire, I didn’t mention it out of pride.   In the sixth year, he dumped me and married a woman he’d only known three months.”   MORE


Our Annual List

Of The Boyfriend

Hall Of Fame

And Shame

by Coco Diong

August 28, 2018

I’ve heard all sorts of stories regarding relationships, and I”ve decided that there are boyfriends and, then there are boy-friends.  There are those who will never be forgotten either for their goodness and those whose appearance in our romantic lives has been banished to the dark corners of our memory banks to never be thought of again.  Here are the ones who made my annual list of The Boyfriends Hall of Fame and Shame.     MORE


The 10 Top

Tips From

The Mingle Guide   

 by Sierra Silverspoon

August 26, 2018

  • You Can Go Alone. Be adventurous.  Special occasions and/or events are meant to be shared.  However, if your birthday rolls around, and you don’t have a date or friends whose company you wish to be in, dress in your hottest outfit and go to a fabulous restaurant alone.  My sister did it and had a wonderful evening.  The waiters catered to her every whim all evening, and she ended up being asked out by the handsome chef in the kitchen.    MORE

7 Things To

Remember

When You Meet

Someone New

 by Cheryl Lakes

August 20, 2018

1.  Relax.  Remember the other person is no more of a human being that you are.  He/She just brings different experiences to the table.  2. Don’t ask too many prying questions.  But don’t skip the basics, like “are you married?”…”are you involved with anyone?”…”do you do drugs?”…”have you ever been arrested?”     MORE


Are You A

“Lazy Lover?”

by Jovan Tahale

“Lazy Lovers” are people who settle for lackluster romance and have never really experienced the excitement of real love, because they lack the energy or stamina to keep looking until they find it.  What we enjoy helps define who we are.  Common pleasures are essential to any healthy relationship.  When the fun stops, regardless of the commitment, the relationship is usually over, whether there’s an actual severance of ties or not.  Unfortunately, many people continue to hang on for dear life in affairs when the flame has petered out. And often, for reasons they couldn’t possibly explain in intelligible language. Good times should be the motivating factor in keeping someone’s company. However, today many people exist in relationships where the joy has disappeared and the fun has rolled over and died.   MORE


What To Do

When You See Him

And Want Him…

by Lisa Laird

August 20, 2018

I once saw a guy in the supermarket, who took my breath away because he was absolutely gorgeous.  I was in real estate and I quickly came up with a way to introduce myself.  I walked up to him, handed him my business card and told him that he looked like the type of guy who could use a mansion, and I had some for sale.  He laughed and we began a conversation that lasted over an hour in the cereal aisle.    MORE


Are Female Stalkers

On The Rise?

by Coco Diong

August 17, 2018

A former college professor was stalked for over five years by a student he befriended.  She showed up at his wedding uninvited and caused a scene by pushing his bride in a nearby pond.  She was obsessed with having him, and arrest and the harassment didn’t stop until she was killed in a car accident.   I used to work with a guy who broke up with a girlfriend to marry someone else, and she went ballistic.  She turned into a stalker who followed him everywhere, and when she could get close enough, she would spray him with pepper spray and run.   MORE


More Than Pretty…

The One Quality

Men Can’t Resist

by Gloria Gibson

August 14, 2018

Susan could be initially viewed as unattractive if measured by today’s standards of beauty.   However, it seems she is always in the company of a male admirer, while her pretty counterparts are alone and bewildered by her popularity.  She has confidence to spare and men find her confidence irresistible and rush to be in her presence.  What’s her secret?  Well, it’s not really a secret.  She just believes that she is beautiful, smart, and worthy to be cherished, which is evident in her attitude and her spirit.  Serena Williams has proven time and time again that it all begins in your mind.    MORE


10 Ways To

Keep Him

From Cheating!

 by Tom Cook

August 11, 2018

Men are not nearly as dumb as women think they are.  Though enough of us do a lot to substantiate that belief (sorry, brothers), for most things as it relates to women, we know what we want and what we don’t want.  The average guy is looking for someone who is not the same as him.  In seeking a soul-mate, we’re looking for someone who is not only sexy and exciting, (sidebar here-sometimes sexy can obliterate fine) but strong and independent.  Really!   That someone who can make him better and keep his ego pacified.

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Dating Apps Or

Dating Traps?

by Dani Phillips

August 9, 2018

Dating apps have changed the way society operates. People no longer feel as compelled to leave the house in order to meet that special someone. One of many issues with these apps is that it’s impossible to distinguish between people who are looking for a genuine relationship versus those just looking for casual sex. The fact that these interactions start over a form of social media makes them seem less real. People will say things to those whom they match that they would never say in person.  MORE


The Deal Breaker

 “I Could Never Be

With A Guy Who…”

 by Jan Pitts

August 6, 2018

It seems throughout history that the thought persisted that a woman’s greatest ambition was to be married and treasured by a man, while men were perceived as being more blasé about entering the state of matrimony.  The famous author, Jane Austen made a fortune writing books about women desperately wanting to marry, and the consequences thereof.  In her day, the perceived goal was to marry well, which meant that a man considered financially solvent and able to afford a wife, almost needed little else.  These days for a growing number of women, who are in what I call “The Waiting Zone” the financial qualifier is still very important, but much more has to be in place before they give their hearts away.  Here are some interesting examples:   MORE


Our Annual

Singles Poll

Who’s Doing What…

1,252 Singles Polled

August 6, 2018

49% owned a home or condo   83%    held at least one major credit card   20%    smoke.    MORE


Betrayal?

Is It OK To

Date Her Ex?

by M.K. Allison

August 4, 2018

When a friend confessed that her new secret lover was actually the ex-fiance of one of our best friends, I was shocked.  We had all been close friends since high school, and I couldn’t believe it. We were at lunch when she whispered, as if someone else might be listening, that she had been dating him for the last eight months, and hadn’t told a soul.  The three of us were the kind of friends who shared almost everything, especially our romantic lives, and we trusted each other implicitly,  MORE


Looking For Love…

Lessons

Learned

by Jovan Tahale

July 30, 2018

So far, this has been a tough year for me on the dating scene. I got burned a lot because I wasn’t paying attention to what I was doing.  Therefore, I made the decision to begin my birthday month with a clean slate and a more alert mind.  I decided to leave behind the “blisters” that still pushed my anger button, when I think of all that I experienced at my own hand.  I resolved to make smarter moves from now on.  Here is what I learned.   MORE


The

Bachelorette

Diaries

The Elevator Encounter

by S. Ellis

July 30, 2018

Some things are meant to be and I am now more convinced than ever.  Several months ago, I went on a job interview, and it was my third interview that day.  I was going through a serious transition in my life.  I was getting over a divorce and trying to cope with losing my job after thirteen years because the company was relocating out of state.   MORE


The Date

From Hell

Ever Had One?

July 26, 2018

Jack – “I was on a first date with a woman and we were having dinner in a restaurant when she spotted an ex- boyfriend at a nearby table with another woman.  She left our table with the explanation that she wanted to go to speak to her cousin, but never returned.  She ended up creating a scene so bad that the police were called.”  Mya – “I went to the movies once with a blind date and he got up to go to the concession stand and never returned.  I never heard from him again, and it was an experience I’ll never forget.  Talk about feeling rejected, I have never in my life felt as ugly and discarded as I did that night.  I was so disgusted that I walked twelve blocks home in the rain without an umbrella.”  MORE


The Rage

Of Jealousy

Ed. Note:  Some of our readers responded to the article Dangerous Dating and sent personal stories regarding the tragedy that jealousy can bring to relationships.  These stories reflect the truth that you must be careful of who you encounter on the playground of life.  K.F. – “I live in New York and there are almost daily newspaper accounts of tragic incidents involving men and women, where jealousy was the cause. Some years ago, my boss who was a doctor, shot and killed her live-in lover, after she followed him and caught him with a younger woman.  She is still in jail doing 25 years.”     MORE


After The

First Date…

6 Things To Consider

by Lisa Laird

July 18, 2018

What’s he thinking?  The average guy’s mind is like the tide when it comes to his feelings…Sometimes they come and go.  So, never assume you really know him.  Trust your instincts for the truth and take what he says with a grain of salt, until he proves otherwise. Don’t cling to his every word like it’s a life raft.  MORE


The Great

Summer

Hook-Up

 The Best Places To Meet…

 by Cheryl Lakes

July 17, 2018

Summer makes unattached singles the world over dream of romance with that special someone to enjoy this wonderful season.  Here are a few suggested places and success stories…Biking:  Susie bought a bike and met her husband to be (a dentist) the first day she rode on the bike path in her city.  Tom met his fiancée when he stopped to help her fix the broken chain on her bike on the bike trail.   MORE


Confessions

The Other Side

Of Lonely…

by C.J. Claire

July 10, 2018

Last year, I functioned well as a promising career woman by day and a fallen woman by night.  I was fed up with long chats on the phone with my gal pals who were as lonely as I was, and married women telling me to pray.  I needed a man, and not just any man, but one who came close to my ideal.  So, I searched everywhere I went and I worked hard to gain attention from the opposite sex.  It became a preoccupation that took total claim of my thoughts and my common sense.  MORE


Your Guy…

How Much

Does He

Have To Make?

“My friend won’t date a guy who doesn’t own a luxury car.  She is so ridiculous about this rule that she uses the “what kind of car do you drive” question as part of her screening process.  She views a man’s car as an indication of his spending ability.”

“I met a woman several months ago at a party.  When the party was over, I learned she was riding with friends, I offered her a lift home.  I drive a Benz, but I was in my pickup truck that night.  When we stepped out to my truck, this woman took a step back and informed me that she didn’t ride in trucks.  I left her standing on the sidewalk and drove off.  I was glad to hear later that when she got back to the party, her friends were gone, and she had to wait over an hour for a cab.”  MORE


Relationships

Missing The

Trouble Signs

by Coco Diong

July 1, 2018

When singles meet someone special, we often close our eyes and hope for the best.  We see what we want to see and then when we do see what we need to see…it’s usually too late.  Here are some examples:   Sandy thought it was cute the way Frank never took things seriously.  She said he was a free spirit, who lived life in an “easy way.”  She boasted about how he never let anything bother him.  When Sandy suffered a stroke and had to be hospitalized.  Frank took off with a bunch of friends on a four-day fishing trip that same weekend.  He told Sandy she would be fine.  After all, she was in the hospital wasn’t she?  Still, Sandy wanted to marry him and was devastated when he told he wasn’t prepared to take care of anyone but himself.   MORE


Good Love…

 When You Least Expect It

by Dana Collier

June 330, 2018

Many singles who are unattached at the moment, are usually poised and open for making new acquaintances that could possibly have romantic potential.  After all, it was not God’s intention for man or woman to be alone and few wish to be.  But I’ve discovered that some find romance when they go looking, while most bump into it and it is usually when they least expect it.  It’s called being at the right place at the right time.  And only destiny knows the schedule.  In the following stories, all incidents are true, but the names have been changed to protect the identity of these lovebirds who are still going strong, basking in their good fortune.    MORE


Flawed: The

Basis For

Rejection?

by M.K. Allison

June 28, 2018

When a cousin’s boyfriend ended their two year relationship, he sent her a dozen of yellow roses (for friendship) with a card, which basically stated that since he was not ready to be in a long term relationship, he thought it best that he allow her the freedom, to without guilt, pursue a relationship that was more suited for a woman of her quality.  When she finished reading that card, she didn’t know how to respond…but she didn’t get angry, and she didn’t feel rejected.  In fact, though she was deeply disappointed, she appreciated the way he ended their relationship. I was impressed. I thought he was a class act. MORE


7 Surprising

Facts About

Domestic Violence

FACT:  More Men Are Victims Than Ever Before.

by Coco Diong

June 19, 2018

FACT #1:  Singles (men and women) often suffer silently in abusive relationships and no one really talks about it.   I discovered this when I recently attended a singles women’s conference and one of the speakers called for those in the room who had suffered physical abuse in non-marital relationships to stand.  I was shocked when at least half of the women in the room stood, including my friend who was sitting next to me.  (There were over 300 women in attendance)  It turned out that she had been in an abusive relationship for over two years and was too embarrassed to tell anyone.  She confessed she was too scared to end the relationship because she was afraid he would kill her.  MORE


So…He’s Not

Your Type…Really?

by Jovan Tahale

June 11, 2018

Before you judge the next book guy by his “cover,” consider these stories.

Jill – “When I first met my guy on a blind date, I couldn’t get past his height. He was 5 inches shorter than me. But by the end of the date, I was so overcome by his personality that he appeared taller than any guy in the room, and I was ready to follow him wherever he wanted me to go.” MORE


Fit To Marry?

Many Are Not…

by Jan Pitts

June 5, 2018

Is it true that African-Americans are the most uncoupled people in the country?  If so, what’s the problem?  No one can quite put their finger on it. According to studies, out of all the racial groups, Africans-Americans are the least likely to marry or stay married.   However, statistics show that the divorce rate among all Americans is currently at 50%.  Since June is the month for The Marriage Walk.  We talked to a few folks who jumped the broom into the land of happily ever to gain some insight and this is what we learned.  Some did well…others didn’t.  MORE


A Costly

Date Mistake

by Cheryl Lakes

June 4, 2018

I realized too late that I had picked the wrong restaurant for a first date I had initiated.  The ride was too long and the conversation dwindled to silence on the way back home, because things had not gone well.  We had sat in the restaurant for almost two hours, and it seemed I had done all the talking.  I was thrilled to be out with him, but I wondered what he was thinking.  Suddenly, he didn’t appear as interested as he’d been before.    MORE


The Top 8

Relationship

Rules

by Jan Pitts

June 1, 2018

So…you think you’ve met the person of your dreams.  But wait!  There’s a lot to be learned about relationships.  I’ve discovered that good relationships come from an acquisition of personal skills that are necessary to fully enjoy the company of someone who has captured your heart.  The following are some steps that have been tried and proven to cut frustration, stress and aggravation down to a minimum, and replace them with cool, unruffled behavior that is guaranteed to make love last longer.    MORE


What Men Pay

Attention To

June 1, 2018

In an effort to respond to the many letters and questions from women concerning what men pay attention to, we decided to address the subject. Our roving reporters found several voices across the country who wished to lend their comments to this popular topic..  So, in the interest of providing valuable information to the many women who seek to gain more insight into the male psych, we present… MORE


Overheard…

Breakups, Fiascos &

Unforgettable Moments

May 28, 2018

  • “I broke up with him because he not only stared at other attractive women, but he would flirt with them in front of me. He was so disrespectful, and he called me insecure when I reacted to his behavior.  One night, we were at a restaurant and he began flirting with the waitress, and I simply excused myself and walked out the door.”  He later called me very angry and claimed that I had embarrassed him by leaving, when I told him I was through with him, he broke out all the windows in my car.   MORE

At The Party…

10 Ways To Be

Unforgettable

 by Lisa Laird

May 18, 2018

It is well-known that a person’s manners, speech and conversation are important components of what makes them attractive.  It can distract from the prettiest pair of eyes or the handsomest face.  Here are some tips on how to keep others mesmerized…or have your presence felt when you enter a room.  1.  Never say what you think a person wants to hear to impress them. Be natural and say only what you really mean.  Don’t be afraid to be yourself.

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Dangerous Enounters

To Leave

With A Stranger

by M.K. Allison

May 23, 2018

Each year, hundreds of women are reported missing by their families, and too often it is after they have been out on the night scene and seen leaving with a complete stranger.  Two years ago, in New York, a friend’s sister left a club with a stranger she had been dancing with all night, and was never heard from again.  Ironically, my friend had the presence of mind to jot down the license number, after she argued with her sister about leaving with someone she didn’t know. The police later found the guy, who claimed he had dropped her off at another club, and the police let him go. MORE


Real Talk

10  More

Things Guys

Wish Girls Knew

by Jake Wright

May 7, 2018

1.  The Whole Romantic Thing:  When a guy doesn’t display romance, it isn’t because he doesn’t know how.  Many guys aren’t romantic because they choose not to be.  Every man has the ability to be romantic if he is motivated from within.  When a man is really in love with a woman, he wants to see her smile and he will do everything in his power to keep a smile on her face.    MORE


The Love Match

Are You On The

A or B List?

by K.L. Mincey

May 4, 2018

I was crying too, as I held the hand of a close friend whose ex-boyfriend’s wedding had occurred that morning.   I was feeling pity for the both of us.  She was distraught, because she had been involved with him for over five years in a relationship she deemed marriage-bound, and he had chosen to marry someone else.  They had taken trips together, exchanged expensive gifts and pledged their undying love, and she had been blown away by “the betrayal.” Like me, she had never been married and it was a lifelong ambition to be so.    MORE


Adventures

In Online

Dating

by Jovan Tahale

May 3, 2018

As you know, singles across the country are spending more days and nights in front of the computer in matchmaker mold.  Some are coming away frustrated, while others are finding true romance.  One friend met three “very interesting” guys on the Internet and two months later, she married one of them in a Las Vegas chapel.  A male cousin of mine no longer goes out to the clubs or sports bars, because he spends every spare moment on the Internet meeting 20 to 30 women a week.  He claims the Internet is the best way to meet women, and it takes the dating game to another level.  Here’s what others had to say:    MORE


Relationships

What Women

Need To Know

About Men

by Theo McNee

May 1, 2018

I recently dated a woman I felt had serious potential until she displayed a serious attitude when I called her a week later after a splendid evening.   She felt I was rude, inconsiderate of her feelings, etc. because I hadn’t called in the time space she had allotted as appropriate.  She accused me of being a player, and other unmentionables, because I didn’t meet her expectations.  MORE


10 Ways To

Tell You’re

Irresistible..

Take Our Quiz

 by Jan Pitts

May 1, 2018

If you wish to be in love or the better half of a relationship you need to understand your irresistible factor.  Do you have what it takes to get what you want?  Take this quick quiz and find out.   MORE


The Breakup

10 Ways To Get Over Him

by Heather Bates

May 1, 2018

  1. Cry.  Yes, this is the first step.  You have got to let that emotion out!.  If you don’t, I guarantee your body will do it for you.  One day you might wake up with a strange pain somewhere, or somehow you contract the flu or bronchitis, or something worse.  Crying is not a sign of weakness, the two are not synonymous.

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The Dating

Experience

Tales From The Front…

April 30, 2018

Kara – “I had a new experience recently. I went out with a guy who told me he was a born again Christian who didn’t believe in premarital sex.  However, he made two dates in a row with me and didn’t show up or call.  I guess he still believes in lying.”   Leah – “I met him one night when I was stranded with a flat tire on a busy highway with no spare tire. He came along to help, and went and bought me a brand new tire, He put it on and wouldn’t let me pay him.  I’ve been with him ever since, and if he doesn’t propose soon, I will.”

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Single Scenarios

What Would You Do?

by Lisa Laird

April 26, 2018

Scenario:  You’re at the party with your “honey” and he/she leaves you to talk to someone of the opposite sex. They are gone too long and your jealous button is pushed.  You go over, ignore the person they’re talking to, and pull them away. You express your dislike in no uncertain terms and you cause a scene, or you simply stay where you are, sulk and say nothing.

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The Top

8 Dating

Don’t’s

The Experts Say…

April 21, 2018

  • Be careful who you sleep with.  A smart woman treats her body like a sacred temple or an encrusted jewel box with precious gems inside.  In other words, she holds it in the highest regard, realizing that her womanhood is the doorway to her soul.  She knows that sex cannot get a man or keep him and that the real way to his heart is the seduction of his mind, which is totally governed by what intrigues him.    MORE

Smart Women

Senseless Choices

by Jan Pitts

April 16, 2017

Last year, a former college classmate, who is a very successful businesswoman, asked my advice about marrying a guy, fifteen years younger, who showed up drunk at their engagement party, and earns $24,000 a year as a store clerk.   Needless to say, she didn’t take my advice, which was to dump him.  Six months later, it was over, when he moved out of her luxury apartment and took her furniture with him while she was at work. However, her story is not unique. The following are some poignant examples of how far some women will go to be joined emotionally to the opposite sex…and I’m talking smart, accomplished women who are attractive, yet lonely.  The names have been changed (naturally) and these are all true stories.     MORE


Single SnapShots

The Things We Hear…

  • “My sister had been separated from her husband about four months, and had no idea where he was. That is… until she anonymously received some wedding photos of him and another woman via the mail.”
  • “When I go in a woman’s home, I am consciously checking for her cleanliness factor, and the bathroom is the perfect place to tell how clean she is.”
  • “I hate to take a woman out to a restaurant who does not ask my permission to order expensive items on the menu.”

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The Side

Chick Saga

by Cheryl Lakes

Gloria:  When Gloria discovered her longtime boyfriend was seeing somebody else, she broke it off.  But after a short separation, she wanted him back at all costs, which means accepting his unfaithfulness, which he admits he can’t stop.  This also means that regardless of what he says, she no longer trusts him.    This is evident in her behavior when he’s around other women. She snatches him away from attractive women at parties, and calls him constantly at night to check his whereabouts.  She doesn’t want to talk.  She just wants to make sure he’s not in the arms of another woman.  MORE


Cheating:

If You

See It…Should

You Tell?

by Nancy Blaine

April 10, 2018

He sat across the room in a high booth in an obscure corner, but I’d know him anywhere.  I had studied his face so long that I could pick him out in a crowd with a blindfold on.  He was tall, lean, and handsome with an expensive smile that flashed like lightning.  He was my best friend’s fiancée, and I saw him when he walked in, holding the hand of a woman whose beauty and style from a distance struck a sharp contrast to my friends’ homespun flair.  They took a seat across the room in one of those secluded booths deemed for lovers only.    MORE


Night Moves

The Diary

Of A  Party

by Jovan Tahale

April 10, 2018

As soon as I walked through the door of the party, my worst fears were realized.  Women were everywhere.  The only man in the place was behind the bar.  I spotted two women wearing the same dress I almost wore, and I breathed a sigh of relief.   My best friend Amy and I sized up the room and became somewhat intimidated by those we saw as threats in the beauty competition, but we decided to stay and tough it out. The men began to come in slowly and the women moved strategically to assume a position where they could be easily noticed.

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17 Ways

To Tell He

Loves You…

M.K. Allsion

April 4, 2018

We are constantly in a pickle when we’re emotionally attached to the opposite sex.  We spend our nights, days and weekends wondering if he cares…feels what we feel…feel what we want him to feel, etc.  We spend breathless moments interpreting, misinterpreting, rationalizing, guessing and hoping the love we want is finally here. But how we can tell?  Experience has taught some of us that we certainly can’t go by what he says, because “love words” can be deceiving or non-existent.  I was once emotionally stuck to a guy who could only grunt when the subject of his feelings came up.  But I knew he loved me when he showed up unexpectedly in the emergency room at 3:00 in the morning, when my mom had a heart attack.    MORE


Do You Know

Who You’re

Sleeping With?

by M. Walkerson

April 4, 2018

I was very excited the day I walked into my favorite boutique, where my friend was the owner.  The grin on my face was wide for two reasons.  One, I was driving a new car, and the other was because finally I had photos to show off my new “honey” who I had been telling her about.  For the past two months, I had been dating the most exquisite guy and bragging about him to friends, and anybody else who would listen.  I had met him at a coed baby shower, and was so impressed with his looks and personality that I forgot where I parked my car when I left the party.  He had me blushing like a teenager by the time he asked for my number.    MORE


Another

Dateless

Weekend?

Try These 6 Things…

by M.K. Allison

March 31, 2018

  • Visit Your Local Bookstore – Go novel hunting and escape for the weekend in the pages of an exciting book. Browsing a bookstore such as Barnes & Noble, is an adventure if you like to read.  They have reading corners and wonderful cafes, which are great meeting places.  I’ve met some truly interesting souls while browsing in a bookstore.    MORE

14 Ways

To Keep

You Interesting?

by Lisa Laird

March 31, 2018

When getting to know someone, it’s sometimes difficult to find things to talk about that  prove interesting to the other party.  Interesting people are usually good listeners, who respond with appropriate sounds that indicate they are attentive to what is being said.  They ask questions which reveal a sincere interest rather than a self-serving curiosity.  They rarely speak of themselves in a complimentary manner or talk incessantly about what’s going on in their lives.  They speak earnestly about what they feel and think and convey a concern for the other person and what’s going on with them.  Interesting people also have the good sense to end a conversation when it is no longer stimulating or interesting.     MORE


 After The

Break Up…

Know The Joy Rules…

by Sue Richards

March 30, 2018

It has been two years since my husband left me for the arms of another.  I had been washing the dishes and humming a favorite Temptations’ tune, when he walked into the kitchen.  I was happy.  He was not.  His head was bent, as he cleared his throat.  These two actions always proceeded a statement he was about to make that had required considerable thought.  However, I had no idea that his words would collapse my world right there on that tile floor.  “I love someone else,” he said.  “And I need a divorce.”

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Flop

Dates

Defined…

by Cheryl Lakes

March 27, 2018

When you’re single and dating, there are moments that happen during the course of time you wish to forget.  Here are a few moments these singles wish they could forget.  Candy – “On a first date with a very exciting guy that I had been working hard to impress all night, I removed my eyeglasses for vanity purposes.  Forgetting that I could barely see without them, I struggled ordering from the menu and got lost coming back to the table from the ladies’ room.  But the worst happened,    MORE


My Worst

Date Ever!

March 19, 2018

G.W.  “After I finally got up the nerve to invite a handsome co-worker to accompany me to a friend’s party, he showed up at my door with a date in the car.  I blew up in anger.  He ended up apologizing with the explanation that he didn’t realize that I was asking him out on a date.  He thought I was just inviting him to a party.  Of course, I didn’t go to the party, and I never spoke to him again.”      MORE


Fateful

Encounters

by Jan Pitts

March 15, 2018

Do you believe in Fate?  Have you ever had a strange feeling that something was about to happen and it did?  Or have you ever felt drawn by some strange force to do something out of the ordinary that was difficult to explain?  Has anyone ever predicted that something would happen to you and it did?   Well, for some, these occurrences have been very real and there are those who believe that Fate has its way of fulfilling its purpose by letting “a chosen few” in on it before it happens.    MORE


How To

Ditch The

Friend Zone

by Abigail Dye

March 12, 2018

The friend zone is that dreadful place full of awkward hugs and swerved kisses. Being cast into the friend zone happens so fast that you may not realize it happening initially, but once your crush calls you “such a good friend” and slugs your shoulder… it’s pretty clear. A common misconception is that once you’re in the friend zone, you’ll always be in the friend zone. This isn’t true and there is hope – follow these seven steps to escape the friend zone if you find yourself there.  MORE


How To Tell

You’re With

The Wrong Person

The Wrong Guy…

  • “He’s always too busy to make plans to be with me.”
  • “He admires other women openly.”
  • “He doesn’t respond well to affection, and I’m affectionate.”
  • “I don’t feel cherished or valued.”  MORE

Another Side

To Speed Dating

by M.K. Allison

Real People…Real Stories

March 7, 2018

Susan was apprehensive, but she couldn’t help herself.  It had been awhile since a guy had brought her flowers and she ignored her gut feeling.  Though her intuition was nudged slightly by a beautiful gold wedding band he wore on his right hand, which he claimed belonged to his deceased father, she chose not to be “paranoid,” about all the good treatment she was receiving.  After three weeks of dating; she let him move into her beautiful home,     MORE


DATE SMART

14 Success Tips

Read This Before Next Date

by Jan Pitts

March 5, 2018

After a lengthy debate about dating with a friend whose brain excels in books, and vanishes at the sight of a handsome male, I decided to make a list for men and women on how to take some of the anguish out of dating, and make a favorable, indelible mark in the minds of all they encounter.  MORE


Dating

With Children

Is There A Problem?

by Cheryl Lakes

March 2, 2018

My friend Melissa will absolutely not date a guy who has children, whether they’re living with him or not.  She uses the “child factor” to disqualify a guy on the spot.  Her reason?  “I don’t have children and I’m not interested in dating men who do or competing for his attention.”   She is not alone.  In a recent poll, 54% of single men and women said they would prefer not to date those who have children from previous relationships. There are many singles who share this view. However, there are also strong viewpoints from the other side of the table.  MORE


Ice Breakers

You And Your

Conversation…

February 28, 2018

When you meet someone new or on a date for the first time and you don’t know what to say.  Try these… It’s called The Getting To Know You Game

  • What was your most memorable childhood experience? How has it impacted your outlook on life?
  • What did you like best about high school?   What did you like least about high school?

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Is It Hard

To Be

With You?

by Ed Lambert

February 28, 2018

With few exceptions, most people wish to be viewed as “wonderful to be around,” but are you?  If you are easily hurt, offended or disturbed by every phone call or message not returned, then you could be viewed as a lot of work to be with.  Consider your attitude and the little things that bother you.  It could easily distract from your “beauty.”    MORE


Finding

Love

After 50

by Coco Diong

When I decided to do this article, I went in search of women over 50 who had never married but found real romance after 50.  Hopefully, their experiences will inspire those who think when romance has not come by a certain age that love has passed them by.  It should also succeed in giving new energy to those who are still waiting to experience that which they have not.  That prince of a guy.  MORE


At The Club

The Tale Of

Two Women

February 21, 2018

Karen had been sitting all evening with a plastered smile on her face, but the guy sitting next to her at the club didn’t seem to notice.  They had exchanged numbers, but Karen had done so against her better judgment.  In spite of an assumed worldliness, she had still not required the savvy needed to discourage unwanted admirers.  When out on the scene, Karen was prone to spend an inordinate amount of time talking to guys who didn’t interest her and then have her sister say she wasn’t home, if they called.   MORE


What’s Your Dating IQ?

12 Things To

Ask Yourself.

February 19, 2018

The Salem/Anderson Report:  Over 300 singles were polled for this quiz.  See if you agree with their responses and think about what you would do in these circumstances.      MORE


Ending It…

Can The

Truth Be Told?

by Cheryl Lakes

A couple of years ago, my boyfriend of eight months told me he had to step away from the relationship because he wanted to concentrate on his career (he was an architect) and “frankly”  just didn’t wish to be in a committed situation at that time.  A month later,  I saw a photo of him hugged up and grinning with a  woman in the newspaper announcing their engagement.  I stayed in bed for two days.   MORE


The Bachelor – Week 7

The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

by Jakub Dulak

February 13, 2018

The Good

  • Tuscany is a lovely location. Production caught some fantastic footage.
  • A lot of the girls are being very realistic about whether or not they’re actually falling for Arie. Jacquie says it well: “I don’t know if I’m falling in love….or falling in love with the idea of falling in love”.  Jacqueline essentially dumped Arie. That’s incredibly satisfying to watch, seeing The Bachelor himself robbed of his power and brought down a notch.  MORE

Who Do

You Talk To?

“Love” Listening

by Coco Diong

February 10, 2018

Last week was a horrible week for me.  I got no sleep and I was up most of the night on Friday.  The reason being is that I have an ear.  That is, a listening ear.  I am willing to listen patiently while sympathizing with almost every female friend in my phone book as they moan and pine about the loss of love, the unrequited love or the abuse of love.  As of this writing, I am about to pull my hair out whenever my phone rings.

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Swipe

Right

For A Valentine…

by Jakub Dulak

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, and with that the pressure to find that special someone is the highest it’ll be all year.   Who wants to spend the most romantic day of the year riding solo?   With only about two weeks to go, guys and girls alike are bound to start scrambling, and many of them will be turning to those trusty dating apps. But you have to wonder…are those apps really all they’re cracked up to be?   Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, OK Cupid, and the most notorious of them all, Tinder, have reached peak popularity, with an estimated 50 million individuals using some sort of application a month.   Needless to say, the apps are popular, and convenient.  MORE


The

Ruins Of

Rejection

By Coco Diong

February 6, 2018

My best friend’s boyfriend of four years just suddenly stopped calling, answering his phone and showing up.  When she finally cornered him at his job, after three weeks of missing in action, he told her he had been depressed about family matters and he just wanted some time to be alone.  Two weeks later, he married another woman in another state.  As of this writing, she is still taking Valium to sleep at night and drinking a fifth of vodka on the weekends.  MORE


8 Things

Not To Do

This Year…

by M.K. Allison

February 6, 2018

  1. Ignore your conscience. Listen to your first mind and follow it.  Last year, I could have saved myself a lot of grief and heartache, if I heeded that small inner voice, which is always pure and practical.  I was constantly in and out of trouble last year because that voice was mostly overruled by my desire, which was governed by bad judgment and impatience.    MORE

Health Clubs:

Great Meeting

Place Or Not?

by Jovan Tahale

February 6, 2018

The health club has long been a place where people meet and scope the various physiques on parade.  Across the country, singles are also greeting and hooking up for romance, fun or whatever they can agree upon, as they work out  in designer Lycra outfits searching the place with eager eyes.  Caryn says she was thirty pounds overweight and overwhelmed by the sculptured bodies that sped by her on the indoor track.  She joined the health club to add some discipline to her latest weight-losing program, but she was not psychologically prepared for the colorful array of bodies on display.  The health club atmosphere made her feel like a hippo among swans.

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FIRST

DATE

FIASCOS

February 1, 2018

Cindy – “I met a guy for dinner once on our first date.  He was quite attractive, and extremely interesting.  I was impressed with him overall, and his professed interest in art.  The evening went very well, and when the waiter brought the check, I was convinced that we were mutually enchanted.  But when we got outside the restaurant, he blew me a kiss, without even asking me if I had a lift home.  He never called again, and I still sometimes wonder what I did wrong.  It was obvious that I had somehow turned him off, and that he was too smooth to exhibit when it occurred.”  MORE


How To

Be A Good

Wing Man/Woman

By Abigail Dye

February 1, 2018

Meeting someone new in a social setting can be awkward, vulnerable and embarrassing. A saving grace that never fails the tongue-tied one-liner, is the noble wingman. Pedro to Napoleon Dynamite, Barney Stinson to Ted, Robin to Batman and Luigi to Mario – all pop culture wings that not only helped save the day – but seal the deal. Wing-men and wing-women are always appreciated and plenty of bragging rights come with being a successful Hitch. Here are the seven rules to building a successful wingdom.  MORE


7 Smart

Girl Moves

by M.K. Allison

January 31, 2018

I began this year with a smarter attitude about relationships.  I decided to leave behind the “blisters” and mistakes from last year that still pushed my anger button, and focus on the lessons I learned.  I call them Smart Girl Moves.  Don’t wait to be approached.  If you see a guy who looks interesting, find a way to get his attention.  This calls for a sliver of imagination and a load of confidence.  However, it will not work if your self-esteem isn’t healthy.  I’ve met tons of men by putting myself in a position to be met.  I met one guy who was walking his dog, by simply asking “what kind of a dog is that?”   MORE


What Is

Micro-Cheating

And Should

You Care?

by Abigail Dye

January 28, 2018

With the endless number of social media trends, coined expressions and hashtags already taking over the New Year, the term “micro-cheating” is making a prominent scene. Micro-cheating goes hand-in-hand with the digital age and growing insecurities of young couples.  It is a term that means exactly what you think – “kind of” cheating. The grey area between being nice and flirting finally has a label. Cheating is a concept that is determined couple by couple and usually once the idea is established, ground rules are set. When the word cheating is mentioned, it entails the exchange of bodily fluids. Micro-cheating covers all the ground leading up to that scandalous first kiss.     MORE


DATE RAPE:

On The Rise?

Real Women-Real Stories

by Coco Diong

January 25, 2018

In this time of the #Me Too Movement, statistics show that date rape is on the rise and more women are coming forward to talk, who were victims of date rape and didn’t report it to the police.  I interviewed four women who stated their reasons.  The names have been changed to protect their privacy.  Sherry: “I was at a sales convention with my boss, and I was thrilled to be there, because it was in Hawaii, and it was my first time going to Hawaii.  I was like a little girl in a toy store.  I was twenty-six at the time, and I oohed and ahhed at everything I saw.  One night, he took me to dinner, and insisted that I order lobster, which I did.   MORE

 


8 Ways

To Capture

His Attention

Forever!

by Terri Smith

January 18, 2018

Despite the opinion of many, believe or not, there are a great number of guys out there who are faithful, and only have eyes for one woman.  There is a reason for it and here’s the secret.   You can have true romance the way you want it, if you’re willing to employ the following tips.  It took some bangs and scratches along the way to finally grasp these points and apply them, which involved crying my heart over many a “star-studded jerk.” But I finally got it…and they work like magic.  MORE


8 Sure Ways

To Blow The

First Date

by M.K. Allison

January 15, 2018

OK!  So…the last two dates either never called again or refused to answer your calls.  You ask yourself…what could be the problem?  Who knows?  Maybe, the following tips might better prepare you for the next date encounter, and improve your chance at being sought out again.  1.  Your personality plays a large role in influencing the “enchantment” factor.  If you’re gorgeous, but dull, your phone will most likely ring for one reason only.  Be clever, funny, and uninhibited.  MORE


CONFESSIONS

A Life Changing

Lesson…

by Nan Strigner

Januaryy 11, 2018

All my life I’d been told that I was beautiful and I took a lot of pride in my looks, but I had never viewed it as an important part of who I was.  I was thirty six years old and had never married, when my grandmother called me to come over for a “long talk.” When she sat me down on the couch and poured tea, I knew she was getting ready to state some truths that she felt needed to be said.       MORE    


God, Sex

And The

Single Life

The Debate

January 2, 2018

I was exhausted.  My friend and I had been debating the same issue over and over again and I was worn out.  I was a new convert to Christianity and had made the decision to no longer have sex with my boyfriend of two years.  She had been in the church for the past five years, singing, tithing and philosophizing on her take of the Bible.  But on this night, she was adamant in her position that sex between two single adults was divinely sanctioned if they were soul-mates or in love as she put it.

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Relationships:

“What Holds My Attention”

December 28, 2017

MEN:

TOM – “A woman who does not try to impress me. She is what she is and she makes no apologies for it. I also appreciate a woman who likes her body and it’s evident, whether she’s large or small.”     GEORGE – “A woman with a wonderful sense of humor. A woman who can be my buddy and my lover.”  GLENN – “A smart woman can lead me down the primrose path. I also enjoy a woman who loves life and enjoys it with or without me.” MORE


5 Dating Lines 

Decoded

by Laura Gilbert

December 11, 2017

It’s no secret that the language of love isn’t always the most, well, direct.  That’s why so many single people spend hours analyzing emails from dates trying to figure out if “I’m busy at work” is a brush-off, or wondering whether that invitation of “I’ll make dinner for you” indicates a desire to share a whole lot more than a favorite garlic chicken recipe.  How can you figure out what someone’s really trying to say?  To help you out, we got a bevy of dating experts to decode eight common lines so you’ll spend less time scratching your head and more time communicating. MORE


Shock Stories

When “Friends” Go After Your Man

December 8, 2017

Chloe:  “I’m currently going through a divorce and I just found out that my best friend is now dating my soon to be ex.  I caught them in bed together at a friend’s home, and I have never felt so betrayed.  When I confronted her about it, she was arrogant and unapologetic.  She informed me that she had been sleeping with my husband throughout our five years of marriage under my ‘ignorant nose.’  I threw a bottle at her and it hit him in the head instead.  They both filed charges against me for assault.” MORE


Would You Knowingly

Share Him?

by Coco Diong

November 30, 2017

I was in a complete state of shock the day I ran into my boyfriend coming out of a restaurant with his arm draped affectionately around the shoulders of another woman.  In fact, I was in a state of shock for two reasons.  First, she looked better than me, and she was obviously younger than me.  I was 34 at the time, and I’m sure ol’ girl was about 20.  I also knew instinctively that she was more than a friend. MORE

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