Overcoming You…

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Overcoming You…

by Bonita Bennett

“I not only use all the brains I have, but all I can borrow.”

                                                                             – Woodrow Wilson

I smiled as I watched a friend pull away in a chauffeur-driven limousine.  She had come a long way, and it wasn’t easy.  I recalled eight years ago, when she was evicted from her luxurious apartment for non-payment of rent.  However, she has accomplished much since that time, but I mostly admire her zest for life and her determination to turn things around.  I will never forget the comment she made on the day she filed bankruptcy.

“As long as I have life, I will make my way.  This is strictly a temporary condition.”  And make her way, she did…from the unemployment lines, to the boardrooms of America, and it didn’t take her long to do.  When I think of her will to rise above her circumstances, I think of the many who find it easy to grumble about their problems or misfortune and give up when mistakes, bad judgment or undisciplined actions catch up with them.  I consider the defeat I see often on the faces of those who succumb to failure when they can’t see their way, or the pieces aren’t in place.  Pieces—which most would describe as love, finance, security and peace.

Though health or the life that sustains it, is a fundamental piece, it’s not generally viewed as a piece to be acquired or concerned with, because it’s normally already in place.  It is usually taken for granted until it starts to wither in illness.   Many have mastered the ability to think beyond their circumstances, or stretch their imaginations, but there are also many of us who need to catch on to this way of thinking.  This is evident by those whose faces reflect fallen spirits who fail to appreciate the sun, and the promise of opportunity that a new day brings, as well as the defeatists who seldom overcome the circumstances that have momentarily blocked their paths.

As I move among the masses, I meet many who are talented, yet unfulfilled.  Most are fascinated and engulfed in the imagery and flash of others who have succeeded, but never dream of being on an equal scale with those they idolize.

I recently read about the man who started the Home Depot Stores.  As is common, his parents were poor immigrants, but he believed that his destiny was to accomplish something great, and he overcame serious obstacles, including being fired from a job, to become a successful businessman.

Success in life is available to all who seek it, if they have the power to dream and all that’s required is breath, faith and determination.  Life is a privilege given to us by God, and a gift we neither earn or deserve.  Therefore, we should all gain a new awareness that regardless of what is happening in our lives that we feel could be better, that as long as we are still here, there is always the possibility to fulfill our dreams if we have one.  Therefore, take time to dream and envision yourself at a better place, and then get busy doing all you can to get there.

Bonita Bennett, founder, publisher  Of Being Single Magazine and a former TV/radio personality, is the author of  the books “How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams,”  and The Coming Of Dawn.  She is also a nationally recognized life coach/relationship expert, and noted motivational speaker, whose life-changing counseling techniques, classes and innovative workshops on life-skills, inter-personal relationships, conflict management, and problem solving are well-known in her field.  Bonita Bennett is also the editor-in-chief of Being Single Magazine.   Be sure to get your copy of  her two books…Meanwhile, read the  excerpts from the mystery novel…The Coming Of Dawn and How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams