The Singles Scene – 3-4-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q:  I have been dating a guy for two months who doesn’t know I have two children.  On our first date, he mentioned he did not date women with children and because I was so impressed with him, I didn’t tell him.  Whenever he comes over, I send my kids to the babysitter and when he spotted a picture and asked who they were, I lied and said they were my sister’s children.  I’m miserable and I feel guilty.  I love my children, but I’ve fallen in love with this man.  Could you please tell me how to get myself out of this mess?

A:  You have to make the decision to choose your kids over him.  Tell him the truth before your kids find out that you’ve lied.  A woman should never deny who she is to “qualify” for love. A healthy self-esteem says a man will accept you for whoever you are and if he doesn’t, he’s not the one for you.

Q:   After a “quick sex at midnight” first encounter, I felt soiled and stupid, when the guy left to get some more wine, and never returned.  However, I felt totally degraded when I got up the next morning and found the tires on my car slashed and my windshield broken.  It turned out that the guy was married, though he said he wasn’t, and had been followed by his wife to my place, who ended up vandalizing my car.  I want to take his wife to court to get reimbursed for the damage to my car, but everyone is advising me to suck the whole thing up as a bad experience and leave it alone because his wife could be crazy. What do you think I should do?

A:  Suck it up as a bad experience and absorb the lesson for future encounters.

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