The Singles Scene – 3-24-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q:  Next month, I’m having a birthday party at my home and I only wish to have people there that I love and care about.  But I have a problem.  I cannot stand my best friend’s boyfriend, and she can’t go anywhere without him.  He is obnoxious, vulgar and flirtatious, and I don’t want him within ten feet of my door.  I know if I tell her not to bring him, she won’t come. And I can’t imagine having the party without her.  What can I do?

A:  Make a choice.  Either put up with him for one night, or party on without her.  You need to decide which feeling is most important.  The one about her… or the one about him.

Q:  I am a 34 year old woman with no friends.  I want to know how do you make new friends?  I was recently transferred to a new job in a new city, and I have never felt so alone.  On my job, I don’t talk to anyone and no one talks to me.  Before I moved, I had no friends, because I cared more about excelling than making friends. Now, I need a friend, but I don’t know how to get one.  I don’t want to approach anyone and ask them to be my friend.  What should I do?

A:  You should begin by talking to the people around you.  Smile and say good morning.  Pass out legitimate compliments to those deserving, Think nice and act nice. Look around you for those whose personality appeals to you and begin a conversation. Invite them to join you for lunch.  Being an interested listener is the best way to show friendliness. And you must be a friend to attract a friend.

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