SingleScenes – 3-18-19

SingleScenes

My friends think I’m crazy because I don’t like to frequent clubs/bars because of the element of people who go there.  I believe people with real goals in life don’t frequent these places.

by Sarah Smart

March 18, 2019

Q.  My friends think I’m ridiculous, because as a single, I don’t like to frequent clubs or bars because the element of people who go there.  Based on my experience, the clubs are filled with guys without a mission in life, and I also think a bar is not the place for a lady.  I believe people with real goals in life don’t frequent these places.  I have a lot of respect for your opinion. What do you say?

A.  I think your view is far over the edge.  To imply that only those with little or no ambition are the only ones who inhabit the club scene is grossly inaccurate.  Maybe it’s where you go.  In my city, Chicago, it’s common to find doers and scholars in a club crowd.  And you should also know that a lady can go anywhere and still be a lady.  A true lady is not affected by her environment.  Her environment is affected by her.  However, I think you’re entitled to go where you feel comfortable, as long as you turn your nose more towards the earth.

Q.  I have been in love with my best friend’s wife for years…ever since we were students in college. But she chose him over me.  Now they’re divorced, and she is suddenly interested in me, as if she’s just seeing me for the first time.  But I’m torn between my friendship with her ex-husband and my love for her.  I’m miserable, and he’s getting ready to marry someone else.  I’ve never told her how I feel.  What do you think?

A.  I think It’s time to tell both of them the truth about how you feel, and then follow your heart.  Go for it.  Fate may be giving you another chance.

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