SingleScenes – 3-14-24

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  My boyfriend of four months cries broke all the time because of his “responsibilities.” Whenever we go out, I spend the money.  I do this, so we can be together.  Most of the time, we’re home. I loaned him $100.00 once, and he never mentioned it again.  I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to do anything to spoil our time together.  However, last week on my birthday, he gave me a beautiful card, no gift, and took me to a fast food place for dinner.  I was so hurt, I cried all night.  My friends, who don’t have boyfriends) say, he doesn’t care and I should drop him.  I just don’t want to be alone again.  What do you say?

A.  Your friends are right. No real man would always let you pick up the tab, and no real man would pass up the opportunity to treat you well on your birthday.  Wait for someone who will treat you like you wish to be treated.  It will be worth it.  If you play in the mud, you’re bound to get dirty.  Get some good soap aka guts and wash him out of your hair.

Q.  Four months ago, I had a break-in at my apartment and called the police.  The burglars took my new television and I was so upset, that one of the policemen brought me one of his TV’s when he got off duty.  He was extremely attractive, and I assumed his act of kindness was also motivated by my appeal.  However, when I sent him a note of thanks, he didn’t respond.  When I called him two weeks later to return the TV after purchasing a new one, he was very officious sounding and told me to keep it.  So, I gave up my illusions and moved on.  Last week, he showed up at my door unannounced, gave me his card, and asked me to call him sometime before he walked away.  I’m confused.  I think he’s strange and that I should avoid him.  My best friend thinks he’s shy and I should pursue the invitation.  What do you think?

A.  I think it’s strange whenever someone shows up at someone’s door unannounced. It is extremely impolite behavior, but I think you should not forget his kindness.  He may be shy or weird, but you have nothing to lose.  I say, call him if you’re interested.  The second call should give you more insight into whether to take a look or scoot.

Got a problem or a confession?  We’ve got the answer.  Send us your scenarios regarding The Single Life to beingsinglemagazine@gmail.com and put SingleScenes in the subject line.

Got a problem or a confession?  We’ve got the answer.  Send us your scenarios regarding The Single Life to beingsinglemagazine@gmail.com and put SingleScenes in the subject line.