The Singles Scene – 8-22-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I have been seeing this guy for over four months and he’s been pressing me to let him move in with me.  He promises we’ll be married within a year, but somehow I don’t trust that he means it.  He keeps implying he doesn’t feel my love because I won’t let him move in and that maybe we should go our separate ways.  I do love him and I don’t want to lose him, but I’m not ready to live with him without being married.  What would you do?

A.  I wouldn’t let him move in until after the ceremony and we shared the same last name.  Sounds like you are about to be played.  Stand your ground and follow your instincts…they’re rarely wrong.

Q.  I recently met the most wonderful guy on a blind date, and he seems as thrilled with me as I was with him.  I was extremely excited about the potential of the relationship until I mentioned his name to my brother.  It turned out that he knew him as a former stalker of a co-worker he used to date. We have been out at least four times, and he has grown very intense about our relationship.  Of course, now, I’m no longer interested, but I don’t know what to do.  I don’t wish to end it abruptly, but he may be dangerous, but I know of no other way. What would you do?

A.  I would turn into an actress and pretend to be suddenly burdened with some personal issues, which I don’t want to talk about, and state in a depressed voice over the phone that I’m not really ready for any kind of social involvement right now.  Then I would cut off all contact and head for the hills.

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