The Singles Scene – 11-21-21

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q:  I want to break up with my girlfriend, but I don’t know how without sounding deceitful and low-down.  The problem is when we first started out, both of us expressed a strong commitment to being honest in a relationship, but at this time I know I can’t because I don’t want to crush her.  I am also not prepared for her insistent questions about why.  I have fallen in love with someone else, and I simply can’t tell her the truth.  I just want to walk away and leave her to speculate, but my conscience won’t let me.  Any suggestions?

A.  I say, be a man and tell her the truth.  She’ll have to appreciate it and will eventually get over the rejection…we hope.  But even so, that’s not your responsibility.  Yours is to be honest, and let her down gently with sensitive language that takes her feelings into account.

Q.  My boyfriend and I have been invited to the wedding of my best-friend’s ex-fiance` and my friend is angry with me because I’m going.  My boyfriend and her ex-fiance are best friends.  She is demanding that I don’t go, because she thinks it’s disloyal since he jilted her.  She thinks my absence would paint the picture of some sort of protest against him and what he did to her.  She has stopped speaking to me and the wedding isn’t until December.  I’m torn.  What would you do?

A.  I wouldn’t go, because I wouldn’t want to add to her hurt.  As her best friend, I think you should respect her position and display your loyalty..

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