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The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I walked into a group gathering the other night and was shocked when I saw my brother’s fiancee sitting in the lap of another man and the embrace was most definitely intimate. They were kissing passionately in front of everyone, but I left before she saw me. They are to be married next month and I want to tell my brother about the incident, but everyone says I should keep my mouth closed and stay out of it. He will find out soon enough. What do you think?

A.  I think you should tell your brother. He deserves to know. It may have been in divine order for you to walk up on her. It sounds like your brother could be walking into the wrong arms. If you saw him falling, you’d try to catch him. Here’s your opportunity to break his fall.

Q.  My best friend’s ex-wife leaned on me for years while she went through mental and physical abuse in their marriage. We met her at the same time in college and we both fell for her, but she chose him. Now, they’re divorced and I have grown to love her.   She has two small children and it’s my desire to take care of her and the children. But I’m afraid to move to change our relationship.  Close friends advise me that it would be a violation of my friendship with her ex-husband.  But I don’t care about him. I lost respect for him a long time ago. They also feel it would be degrading to approach her with my feelings since she chose him over me in the first place. What do you think?     A.  I think you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Tell her how you feel, but don’t expect anything, just hope. I don’t agree with your friends regarding her choice of the past. Feelings can change overnight and it’s very possible that after leaning on you for so long that she might be willing to lie in your arms as your wife. Your friend had his chance and he blew it. Fate may have given you a second chance. Go after it.

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