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10 Rules To Win

In The Game Of Life

by Bonita Bennett

A few years ago, I wrote an column about my childhood, and how I transformed myself from a shy teenage ugly duckling with no friends to a popular classmate who received a standing ovation upon my high school graduation.  Since that time, I’ve received many letters from women who claimed my story changed their lives.  Some admitted to being suicidal, abused and socially maladjusted, while others confessed to suffering from loneliness (no friends), depression and low self-esteem.

Through my many encounters with men and women of all ages and walks of life, I find that too many are stuck in a valley of unhappiness and don’t know how to get out because of low self-esteem.  There are those who are constantly scarred, exploited and victimized by their own hands, and blame others for the “abuse.”  When we love, we feel defiled, hurt and rejected when someone does not love us back, and many times, we will badger them( by our sturdy refusal to let go) to love us anyway in spite of their wants..

In order to win in the game of life, we have to first change our minds about ourselves, and imagine ourselves as who we want to be and begin working on it.  Here are some marvelous ways to do it:

  • Seek the best for yourself, by accepting only the best and begin with the understanding that there is a Divine Design for your life, and you must seek God and trust Him to show you.  Most of us function in complete ignorance of our true destinies and strive hard for things and people who don’t belong in our atmosphere.  This action usually brings about failure and dissatisfaction because it was not in line with the divine purpose in the first place.
  •  In other words, having it your way is not always the best way.
  • In the game of life, it’s important to see clearly one’s good and obliterate all mental pictures of bad.  You must see good in your life and good in others, and it will manifest vividly.  Your beauty as a person should first be seen through your eyes.
  • You are what you think.  Words and thoughts are a tremendous force in our lives.  They are the molders of our affairs.  Bring your thoughts under control, and strive for peace of mind in all situations, and steer clear of people who are not in harmony with you.  Say out loud what you wish to see manifest in your life.
  • Know that you can have what you want, if it’s a righteous desire…up to and including a soul mate.  Read Psalm 37:4.  When you want something, think about it.  Would God want you to have it?
  • Believe in who you pray to.  If you pray for success and prepare for failure, you will get the situation you prepared for.  Think about it.  Can God do what you want?  Is there anything impossible for Him?
  • See yourself as God’s special creation, and believe it.  Remember, others always follow our lead in seeing us the way we see ourselves.  If you want respect, command it by projecting through word and action the value you place on your being.   Believe me, others will follow your example.
  • Don’t throw your diamonds in the dirt.  Associate closely with like minds only.
  • Know that everyone cannot like you in the way you wish to be liked, and it is not an invalidation of your value as a person.  It is simply not destiny’s choice for you.  Know that God will hold no good thing from you.
  • Remember most of all, it’s okay to fall down, make a mistake, or miss the mark, as long as you get back up and try again.  All the great ones live by this rule.

Bonita Bennett, publisher  Of Being Single Magazine and a former TV/radio personality, is the author of  the books “How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams,”  and The Coming Of Dawn.  She is also a nationally recognized life coach/relationship expert, and noted motivational speaker, whose life-changing counseling techniques, classes and innovative workshops on life-skills, inter-personal relationships, conflict management, and problem solving are well-known in her field.  Bonita Bennett is the publisher and founder of Being Single Magazine       Be sure to get your copy of  her two books…Meanwhile, read the  excerpts from the mystery novel…The Coming of Dawn and How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your DreamsThe Smart Woman’s Guide To Romance.

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