Bonita’s Blog – How To Spot A Man Of Quality

Bonita’s Blog

How To Spot A Woman Of Quality

by Bonita Bennett

            Every man I know desires to be loved by some and liked by most, but only a select few will walk through life and obtain in great measure, sincere admiration and respect from women, friends and peers.  Why?  Because other things pronounced take priority and confuse the relevance of good interpersonal skills that are sensitive and considerate of others.

            In this day and time, I feel safe to say that only a small segment of society can expect to have the word “class,” in the true sense of its meaning, used in the same context with their name.  In general, this term is used very freely in connection with sophistication, poise and cosmopolitan knowledge, but seldom is it used to describe grace, integrity and sensitized behavior.  Savor-faire on a man is good, but being in tune to the people in his life is better.  Hence, those of us who possess a strong interest in quality behavior yearn to commonly associate, especially romantically, with a man who possesses high caliber stature characteristically, and knows how to treat a woman.

            In writing this, I did a great deal of research on “quality male behavior” and received some interesting input from several learned companions, men and women who have a great eye and ear for a persona worthy of note.  We all agreed that a man with true character has a posture that encompasses unique manners, superior values and incredible sensitivity.  Here are some of the other points we agreed on:

A MAN OF QUALITY…

• understands well the role God plays in his life and that without Him, he can do nothing.
• uses humor and wit to offer “direction” in place of criticism.
• never talks to one woman, when accompanied by another woman, without including her either through introduction or conversation.
• does not use profane language to express himself.
• will do what he says he’ll do.
• never voices a negative opinion in public.
• views having to lie as an affront to his manhood.
• possesses a kind manner that goes where he goes.
• allows for the frailties of others in hopes that he is given the same consideration.
• is monogamous.  One woman at a time is blissful to him.
• never functions for the approval of others.
• views the woman in his life with three dimensional vision…his equal, when he needs her to be…his superior when circumstances call for her to be and someone to protect when the situation dictates.
• savors a woman’s beauty, but searches intently below the surface for the essence of her draw.
• closes the door when a relationship is over, but always leaves it unlocked for friendship.

True class in a man is how well he treats others, which has nothing to do with choosing wine at dinner or knowing the right fork.  If a woman insists on quality clothes and other quality tangibles, she should hold out for a quality man.  However, in order to assess quality, we must be able to recognize that quality and knowledge stems from personal interest, which begins with one’s self.  It is important that we strive to be what we desire in others.  It is also far easier for a quality woman to spot a quality man, for it takes one to know one.