Bonita’s Blog – Things That Make Me Wonder
by Bonita Bennett
As I stare out the window pondering the complexities of life, I wonder about the woman who goes after the best for her outer (clothes, hair and nails) and her participation in a relationship where she is emotionally famished. Is it because her heart and mind is mired by the confusion of what she wants, over what’s good for her soul. Nor can I comprehend the man who runs from an attractive adoring admirer to chase after the woman who treats him with contempt, while he lives to hear her call his name. I have so many questions, but so few answers.
The Existers: I often wonder why so many of us are burdened by the character of our existence, but won’t do anything to change it. Why do we hold on, when we know we should let go…or tolerate more than our senses can bear? Why do we place the feelings of “soul-violators” above our own without good reason, or allow people in our lives who don’t qualify for entrance? Why do so many women allow their dignity to be trampled on for a few moments of perceived “glory/” Why do we allow others to hurt us more than once and then run back for more. Why do we fear losing something we’ve never really had, and fight so hard to keep it. So many of us yearn to be held in high regard, but fail to understand that respect from others is motivated by our obvious respect for ourselves.
The Achievers: The souls who know and understand this challenge end up leading lives that are committed to only allowing the best to come in and exist in the corridors of their emotional quarters. They prevail in a self-ordered environment of seldom disturbed peace because they enter into the day to day realm with a high regard for their well-being. In relationships, these people seem to be of the mindset that the object of their affection must be obviously as enamored (or thrilled) as they are, and that if one has to guess, prod, pull or push in a relationship than it is seldom worthy of an emotional investment. However, it appears to be by all accounts, that their numbers are small in comparison to those who suffer daily in relationships created by their own hand.
Unfortunately, so much of The Existers’ dilemma is due to their obsession with getting what they want, when they want it, and they usually end up paying for it with blood, sweat and tears.
Bonita Bennett, founder, publisher Of Being Single Magazine and a former TV/radio personality, is the author of the books “How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams,” and The Coming Of Dawn. She is also a nationally recognized life coach/relationship expert, and noted motivational speaker, whose life-changing counseling techniques, classes and innovative workshops on life-skills, inter-personal relationships, conflict management, and problem solving are well-known in her field. Bonita Bennett is also the editor-in-chief of Being Single Magazine. Be sure to get your copy of her two books…Meanwhile, read the excerpts from the mystery novel…The Coming Of Dawn and How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams