Single Scenarios
Dating With Drama
by Sierra Silverspoon
When we meet someone interesting, we often close our eyes and hope for the best. We see what we want to see and then when we do see what we need to see…it’s usually too late. Here are some “red flag” examples:
Sandy thought it was cute the way Frank never took things seriously. She called him a free spirit, who lived life in an “easy way.” She boasted about his nonchalant attitude and how he never let anything bother him. When Sandy suffered a heart episode and had to be hospitalized, Frank took off with a bunch of friends on a four-day fishing trip. He told Sandy she would be fine. After all, she was in the hospital, wasn’t she? Still, Sandy wanted to marry him and was devastated when she proposed and he expressed that he wasn’t prepared or interested in taking care of anyone but himself.
Leonard’s girlfriend Stephanie is a vivacious woman who flirted her way into Leonard’s life. She met no strangers and blended right in wherever Leonard took her. She was bright, beautiful, and bound to get Leonard to say “I do.” He did and she is breaking Leonard’s heart daily with her flirtatious acts toward his friends and total strangers. Before they got married, she winked and flirted with his male co-workers and made suggestive remarks to more of Leonard’s male acquaintances than he cares to admit. She craves male attention, and Leonard excuses her behavior publicly as “outgoing.” He admits to taking sleeping pills every night and having nightmares about her leaving him.
Pamela was flattered when her new boyfriend Martin expressed his jealousy. She thought it was sweet the way he called her on the phone after each date. “Just checking to see if you went out with someone else after I left you,” he’d say. She thought he was joking. She said it pumped up her ego – and made her feel desired. She gushed to her friends that she thought he was the one. However, when Martin admitted to watching her apartment building at night to see if she went out after he dropped her off and later discovered him following her as she shopped at the mall, Pamela broke off the relationship and got a restraining order against him.
Ava ignored the trouble signs that flashed blatantly before her honeymoon with Stan. She knew him to be temperamental and cruel at times. Yet, she still married him, hoping he would change, and boarded a cruise ship with him. However, it turned out to be a miserable trip. He was verbally abusive in the presence of other vacationers and flirted with some female passengers in front of her. During one excursion on land, Ava somehow got lost from the group. After more than thirty frightening minutes of being lost, she finally emerged onto a road where the rest of the group was boarding a bus that would take them back to the ship. Ava’s new husband began shouting and waving wildly in her direction. “Would you bring your dumb a** on! You’re holding everybody up.” In the end, it cost her a lot of money and heartache, but she got an annulment when they returned home.