“Lessons I’ve Learned”
April: “If it’s a real secret, Don’t tell a soul. No one can keep your secrets better than you. I had two “friends” betray me after they promised not to “breathe a word.”
Zorah: “Find something you can enjoy alone. It stops you from depending on others when you feel like having a great time. Fun should not be contingent on other people. I’m not dating anyone right now, but I plan something fun to do every Friday and Saturday to enjoy.”
Canesha: “I don’t go to any more parties with a bunch of my girlfriends. I used to attend parties with at least two friends and sometimes meet up with more friends upon arriving. Then we’d all sit together and the torture would begin. The guys would approach the group and it became a process of elimination. If I were one of the last to be chosen, I would feel inferior all evening about my appearance.
Lori: “I am no longer waiting on my prince to ride up and swish me away. If I see a guy I like, I do the choosing…but in a subtle way.
Marcia: “If I can’t capture a man’s heart, I’m not settling anymore for sex. It is an incredible challenge to find a suitable mate, and we all face this challenge in different ways. Some of us get tired of the search and opt for whatever appears available. Others stay active in the “game” and catch as catch can. We hang tough with “shells” of what we’re looking for and work off our disappointments at work.”
Beth: “For most of my friends, temporary encounters and floods of tears are common. Many are discouraged and are lowering their social requirements for a mate. Shortcomings are too often corrected through fantasizing. I have been guilty of this, but I finally learned my lesson. For me, sex is no longer a part of the dating game. I’m saving myself for marriage and real love.”
Kent: “Last year, after breaking up with a girlfriend, I learned from one of her friends that I had been divorced four times, and my ex-girlfriend was the only person I had ever told. After that, my private info is no longer available.”