Hazard Hook-Ups – 8 Tips To Avoid Them

Hazard Hook-Ups

8 Tips To Avoid Them

by Lisa Laird

I was on a 3^rd date in a very upscale restaurant with a guy who had shown a lot of promise. He had great credentials and a smile to match.  He was a handsome, attentive, and charming radio executive. Therefore, in the midst of having a great time, I was stunned when he asked why I kept smiling at the waiter.  But, I was also somewhat flattered by the hint of jealousy, which helped zap my panic button. 

However, when I hugged an old schoolmate that I ran into on our 4^th date, and he grew irritated, I knew it was time to move on. On the way home, he stated that it was disrespectful for a woman to hug another man in his presence.  I blocked his number and never spoke to him again.

Too often, as Singles, we allow people into our lives who should have never gotten past the front gate.  The reason for this with women, that is, is that we’re all a bunch of hopeless romantics who hope and pray that THIS encounter will be the end of the search.  Unfortunately, most of us don’t go out with our radar.  For the most part, it is immediately turned off consciously with the first flutter of the stomach. 

The thing is, we are often warned in advance of danger through the divine antenna that God gave to us all.  However, most of us either ignore it or let need, want, or ego block out the signals.

Here are a few tips to help weed out the weird ones.

• Pay close attention to all things he/she says or does. It’s healthy to be paranoid until you know him better.  Be sure to let it be known that you’re cautious regarding those you don’t know well.
• If he/she does something weird or strange more than once, don’t go back for a third look.  Consider what you saw or heard as a warning!
• Try to get as much personal information as possible on him/her before you get involved. emotionally.
• Never press past your instincts. If it doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.  A really good-looking friend of a friend offered me a ride one night, and I hesitated because it didn’t feel right.  But I accepted anyway, and he ended up trying to rape me before I got out of the car.  I got away by burning his hand with a cigarette lighter.
• Take an anxiety pill. Don’t be so anxious for this one to be the one.  Take your time to get to know him/her before you get psychologically charged up.
• If you have children, don’t expose strangers to your child too soon. (One new boyfriend took a woman’s child shopping and didn’t return for two days.)
• Don’t keep him/her to yourself, when you first meet. Make sure your friends meet him/her and seek their assessments.  They may see something you don’t see.
• Stay alert and observant while you give him/her a chance to prove that they are who they say they are.