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Scaredy Cats

by Bonita Bennett

Are you a scaredy cat?  Most “scaredy cats” I know suffer in silence when a problem arises, until they can get to a phone and sound off to someone totally unrelated to their problem or circumstance.  Once there, they say all the things they should have said  to the related party and then some.

The guy sitting across from me fought hard to control his tears when he began to talk about his fear of rejection.  His face was handsome and stoic, but his  proud look slowly disappeared when he began to explain how his fear affected his ability to approach women.   Unfortunately, his story was but one of the many  I encounter, as I talk to singles who are trapped or limited by their respective fears.

When I was a kid, my playmates and I used the term “scaredy cat” to tease anyone who was afraid to do something that exhibited bravery or courage.  It was a common phrase used among kids that could apply to many adults as well.

There are many who exist woefully in unhappy relationships because they either fear being alone or fear the unknown.  For too many, a “bird” in the living room is far better than one in the bush. There are also those who never speak up for themselves in love, work or play, but  eloquent when the “shoe” of discomfort is on someone else’s foot.

Fear can be gripping and paralyzing for those who lack the freedom to express the sounds of their soul.  However, most fears can be conquered by bold moves and a strong sense of self that supersedes what others might think or do.

Bonita Bennett, founder, publisher  Of Being Single Magazine and a former TV/radio personality, is the author of  the books “How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams,”  and The Coming Of Dawn.  She is also a nationally recognized life coach/relationship expert, and noted motivational speaker, whose life-changing counseling techniques, classes and innovative workshops on life-skills, inter-personal relationships, conflict management, and problem solving are well-known in her field.  Bonita Bennett is also the editor-in-chief of Being Single Magazine.   Be sure to get your copy of  her two books…Meanwhile, read the  excerpts from the mystery novel…The Coming Of Dawn and How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams

 

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