The Love Advice No One Takes…

The Love Advice

No One Takes

by Callna M. Sharey

My friends call me for advice all the time, but no one listens.  Last week was a rough week.  The reason is that I listened to too many sob stories in a five-day period.  I am known to listen patiently while sympathizing appropriately with my female friends as they moan and pine about the loss of love, unrequited love, or the abuse of love.  However, though they all ask for my counsel, no one takes it.  I often wonder why some women are smart when it comes to picking the mates of their friends, and dumb when it comes to picking their own. 

The unfortunate part is that they all seem to suffer from the same problem….yearning, hoping and crying for “love” to be returned from someone who either can’t or won’t.

Unfortunately, some live in fear of being without some semblance of a man.  One friend, who is beautiful, lies in wait for a guy who tells her when he is out with other women.  Another feels that buying expensive gifts is the way to a guy’s heart, but cries often about the “ingratitude of the men today.”  

Yet, the tears continue to flow and the groans of frustration grow louder.  One friend continues to date a guy who has hit on her sister, her cousin, and her best friend, and she thinks they’re lying because they’re jealous of her.  I have one friend who is currently involved with a guy she has caught out several times with other women. When she attacked him one night outside a movie theater, where she caught him kissing another woman, he didn’t take her calls for two weeks. When he finally did, she begged his forgiveness and asked him not to stop seeing her.

One friend only calls me when she needs an ear to bounce off the latest tragic love story in her life, and whenever I try to interject some sound advice I’m usually cut off in mid-sentence.  Personally, I think some women are somehow prone to love the guy who offers the most drama.  However, as I say often, way after the midnight hour, “the desire to be loved should never make one lose their sense of self-worth.”   Unfortunately, no one is listening.