Point Of View:
Why He Stopped Calling…
by Jay Baldwin
My co-worker Carla was perplexed. She hadn’t heard from Bill in a week, and she couldn’t reach him by phone. The last time they were together, he’d received an emergency phone call and had to leave her best friend’s birthday party. They had been dating four weeks and seemed to be getting along well. She wracked her brain trying to figure out why he suddenly disappeared, but she couldn’t think of anything that made sense.
What happened to Carla is not uncommon. Many women often wonder why after a few dates with that hoped-for dream guy, he suddenly disappears into the sunset, without a word or explanation. In the beginning, getting together is filled with excitement and anticipation of what’s to come…then suddenly the phone stops ringing and he’s unavailable. Why? It could be for many reasons, but there are four types of women who could easily send a guy in another direction.
Clingy Carol – This type becomes glued to a guy shortly after the onset of the relationship. When they’re out, he cannot move without her. She has an obvious fear of him giving too much attention to someone else, and it can be suffocating. I was out enjoying dinner one night with a beautiful woman I’d met in the train station. It was our first date and I was enchanted…that is until a former colleague, who happened to be very pretty, passed our table and I stood to greet and hug her. When I returned to my seat, my date asked me if she was an ex-girlfriend because she could tell by the way we embraced that we had slept together. Her assertion was wrong, but I was so stunned by her remark that I knew I would never see her again. Her remark let me know that she was the clingy and suspicious type.
Demanding Donna – She’s on the phone regularly wanting to know what her guy is up to…and when will he have time for her? Demanding women are prone to possess unreasonable standards which they expect their partner to adhere to.
Boring Barbara – This woman usually has poor conversational skills and little or no imagination. One woman I dated for a minute was very pretty but spent our whole time together talking about her kids, her job and her past relationships.
Chatty Cathy – Chatterers usually talk incessantly about things that are of very little interest to other people. They also tend to be poor listeners. I was on a first date with a gorgeous woman who spent the entire evening describing her back surgery and the consequences of her rehab efforts. I never called her again.
These are but a few of the reasons why many men are mistakenly depicted as confused. When these characteristics are encountered, many men feel forced to move on in search of a woman who is void of these traits.