The Date Quest: What Happens When Women Take The Lead

The Date Quest:

What Happens When

Women Take The Lead…

Kerry – 37 – “I wouldn’t mind a woman asking me out if she were attractive.  But, I’ve only been approached by women who didn’t appeal to me.  It’s a tough question because a guy finds it hard to reject a woman outright. And I think most men are taken aback a bit when a woman makes that kind of move.”

Cherrie –29 – “I asked one guy at work to go with me to a basketball game.  I’ll never do it again because I was uncomfortable all evening.  He knew I liked him, but he pretended he’d been invited under the banner of friendship.   All evening, he avoided my eyes and my getting-to-know-you questions.  After that, he distanced himself from me at work.  Now, I know how a guy feels when he asks a woman out for the first time.  I felt rejected and embarrassed.”

Carl – 33 – “I like it when a woman has enough confidence to approach me first.  And I have been approached often.  But I must admit that I have never accepted an invitation with a woman who approached me first.”

Amy – 46 -“I made the first move with my husband and it worked.  I had to gather up the nerve because he was the finest guy in school and women were throwing moves at him everywhere he went.  So I sat up all night and came up with a creative idea to ask him out.  I knew if I were going to get his attention, it had to be through his mind.  I bought some play money and put a $100.00 bill in a note that read, ‘If you’ll be my escort at Homecoming and help me make a good impression, there’s more where this came from.’  He was enchanted and consented to go. The rest is history.’

Martin – 40 – “I like it when a woman asks me out.  It’s an ego booster, and it doesn’t require any effort on my part. I went on a date with a woman who kept apologizing all night because she felt self-conscious about initiating the date.  But I have to confess that I prefer to do the choosing.”

Clara – 32 – “I invited a gorgeous co-worker out for drinks, who seemed genuinely flattered.  But he turned me down, saying he had a girlfriend who would not approve of him being out with another woman. I was so embarrassed that I almost fell backward down a flight of stairs. That was my first and last time asking a guy out.”

Kyle – 47 – “I had an unusual experience with a beautiful woman who asked me out to dinner.  I accepted the invitation and bragged to my buddies about the date.  She picked me up in a limousine and had roses for me when I got in the car. For me, it was love at first sight.  But for her, as she later confessed, it was to win a bet and to win a bet only.  I never saw her again and I haven’t said yes to such requests since.”

Sandy – 30 -” Nowadays, a woman can’t wait for a guy to ask her out.  There is just too much competition out there.  I ask guys out all the time and I have never been turned down.  My ego is in check before I broach the subject.  I have found that some men are very intimidated by attractive women.  They often feel that we have so many men after us, that they fear rejection.  I find that my approach makes it easier for us to get together.  However, once I initiate the first encounter, I let him initiate everything else.”

Jack – 50 -“I am not comfortable with a woman approaching me.  I’ve had two experiences with women at work.  One was apparently very lonely and very desperate, and the other one asked me if I would be her date at a formal affair.  I turned both of them down because I didn’t want my yes, to be misinterpreted.  It’s a tough position for a guy to be in, to say no to a request to be in his company.”