Terry: “I know women who complain and are often puzzled by guys who ask for numbers they never use. I can only speak for myself, but here are some of the reasons why I’ve taken numbers and never used them. 1. I changed my mind after the effects of the evening and alcohol wore off, and I was no longer interested. 2. I lost or misplaced the number. 3. I really wasn’t interested in pushing the evening past the conversation, but like most men, I felt it polite to take the woman’s number after extended dialogue.”
Carl: “I’ve encountered some bizarre situations where a woman gave me her number and wouldn’t take the call. One woman answered her phone and claimed not to be in. Another woman talked to me all night at a club, gave me her phone number, and asked me to call her. However, when I called her the next day, she explained that she was married and her husband was out of town. She said she talked to me all night because she just wanted some attention.
Meredith: “I am 41 years old and I have never received flowers or a romantic card from a man. On the other hand, I have been a most generous girlfriend. I have sent flowers and bought a number of expensive watches as gifts, and all I have to show for it are two kids, whose fathers have long rode off into the sunset.”
Danielle: “I have always had a need to be validated by a man, and I believed that this could only be achieved through marriage. I always wanted to be viewed by other women as chosen. Unfortunately, I went through several marriages before I realized that I didn’t have to feel validated by anyone, but myself. Ironically, I married three times, and in each case, I bought my own wedding ring, because they couldn’t afford to.”
Kenya: “I’ve always felt like being married set me apart in some elevated way from other women, which made me feel more desirable and destined for happiness. But I know for a fact that it ain’t so. When I got married, it lasted all of four days. This was because he tried to choke me on our honeymoon during an argument, and it was all downhill after that. I lived with his verbal and physical abuse for six years before I was finally able to break free.”