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by Sarah Smart

Q.  I recently went out with a guy for the second time, who treated me like a princess.  He took me to a candlelit dinner on the roof of a ritzy hotel and treated me to an exquisite dinner under the stars.  He’s really a good-looking guy, but I ended up cringing every time he tried to nuzzle my cheek or hold my hand.  I tried to like him but there was just no chemistry.  My problem is that he’s asked me out again and I don’t want to waste my time with someone who is not what I want.  Unfortunately, he’s smitten.  What do I tell him?  I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

A.  Tell him the truth…that you feel he’s a super great guy, but there is just no chemistry between you, and don’t offer to be his friend.  It’s not good for the ego.

Q.  Last month, I was out on a blind date, and the guy was so rude, I’m still angry about it.  He criticized my hairstyle, accused me of wearing a weave, and kept remarking all evening on how he hated women who wore weaves.  He also complained about how expensive the restaurant was, though he chose it and he left the table several times to answer his phone.  Eventually, I got so disgusted with his behavior that I got up and left him sitting there.  I’m so angry with my friend for introducing me to such a jerk, that I refuse to talk to her.  Everyone thinks I’m overreacting.  What do you say?

A.  I say you’re angry with the wrong person.  You went on the date, and you had the option not to go on the date.  I think you just need an object to exact vengeance on it, and she’s an available target.  Pull it together.  You’re not the first person to experience a bad blind date, and you won’t be the last.  Get over it!

Q.     I learned the hard way that you cannot gauge chemistry over the phone.  I met this woman online and I waded fast into infatuation.  She had the most sensuous voice, but when we met, she looked nothing like her photo, and I was immediately turned off.  I told her finally that I didn’t feel we’d make a good match, but she won’t stop calling me.  How can I get rid of her?  No more online dating for me.

A.     It’s simple.  Block her number.

Got a problem or a confession?  We’ve got the answer.  Send us your scenarios regarding The Single Life to beingsinglemagazine@gmail.com and put SingleScenes in the subject line.

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