SingleScenes – 3-9-25

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.   Two months ago, my best friend’s brother gave me a lift home from a chess match, and my boyfriend rang the doorbell five minutes after I got in the house.  When I opened the door, he slapped me and accused me of cheating on him.  When I began crying, he apologized profusely, saying he loved me and that he had overreacted.  I’d been waiting so long to hear those words, that I forgave him since he had never hit me before.  However, since then he has become more possessive, and I’m afraid he might hit me again.   But I love him, and I don’t want to end the relationship.  What can I do?

A.  You need to decide how you feel about being slapped and eventually punched. .  Once a guy hits you, and you accept it, you open yourself up to get hit again.  A man, who can hit a woman once, can hit a woman again.  Possessive people can make your life miserable.  Real love is gentle, kind, and void of slaps and suspicion.  The next time could come from the repairman leaving your house.

Q.   I recently went out with a guy with whom I was very impressed.  We had a wonderful evening and he really seemed to enjoy me as well.  We exchanged numbers and he promised to call.  That was three weeks ago and he has yet to dial my number.  We have talked a couple of times and each time I called him.  However, both times, he appeared to be glad to hear from me, but not one time did he mention seeing me again or calling at a later date.  He’s warm but distant.  My friends say, “he’s shy” and “maybe waiting on me to make the first move.”  I’m confused. Would you say he sounds interested?  I really like him and don’t want him to slip away if there is some potential.

A. Frankly, it sounds like he has already slipped away and he made a lot of noise while doing it.  It appears that this guy is not remotely interested and it also sounds like he’s honest and a nice guy.  He hasn’t given you the popular lines used by the cowardly types, such as, “I’m on the other line,”… “I’ll call you back” or I’m busy now, but I’ll get back to you.”  He apparently does not want to lead you on or be unkind. Most men know their roles, even those who fear rejection, and when a woman acts as interested as you have done, and he’s interested, he lets you know.  Meanwhile, don’t be disappointed, everyone cannot like you in turn. Ignore your ego and move on to higher ground.  You won’t miss what’s meant for you.  And don’t call him again!  Spend your time and energy on a number that’s worth dialing.

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