The Singles Scene – 2-21-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  My best friend is dating my married brother and they are driving me crazy.  I am in a crossfire, because I am close to my sister-in-law and I have voiced my disapproval.  But they don’t care what I think.  I am writing you because my sister-in-law just told me that she suspects her husband is cheating on her, and she’s considering having him followed.  I don’t know what to do.  I feel I have an obligation to my brother, my best friend and my sister-in-law.  Should I tell my brother about his wife’s plan?  Should I warn my best friend that she may get hurt?  Or should I play crazy and mind my own business?

A.  You should definitely mind your own business.  Your brother and best friend are both adults whom I’m sure understand the risks of their actions.  Keeping your mouth closed is not an act of deceit.  It shows wisdom. You are not responsible for the actions of others.

Q.  Two weeks ago, my boyfriend said he was going out of town to a wedding.  Two days later, I ended up at a party across town with friends that was unplanned.  When I walked in the door, I spotted my boyfriend hugged up in the middle of the floor, dancing close with a very attractive woman with his eyes closed.  I was so hurt that I turned and ran from the party. To this day, I have not told him I saw him and I’m miserable.  I cannot forget that he looked more enamored with her, than he’s ever looked with me.  I love him, but deep down I know he doesn’t love me.  I think I’m afraid he’ll confess that he loves her and I couldn’t take it.  What should I do?

A. You caught him in a big lie and you want to be with him. I don’t understand your desire.  If you believe that he does not love you, then you should say nothing about what you saw and end the relationship.  Why date someone who is that deceitful.  That incident just showed you what you already knew.  Let go now for the sake of your dignity. Your strength may be the incentive he needs to take a different look at you.  People respect those who respect themselves.

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