by Sarah Smart
Q. I loaned my best friend three hundred dollars, which she agreed to pay back in two weeks. Two weeks passed, and when she didn’t mention it, I did. She confessed that she didn’t have it, because she had borrowed it for her boyfriend, and he had promised to pay her back in two weeks, and had not. I am furious because I feel deceived. I want to ask her boyfriend for my money, but I don’t want to embarrass her. What would you do?
A. I would hold her accountable and her only. You loaned the money to her…not her boyfriend. What she did with the money is irrelevant. It is her responsibility to pay you back. I just hope she’s off your loan list.
Q. I am engaged to be married to a guy next month, who just confessed to me (tearfully) that he slipped up and slept with my cousin several months ago, and he asked for my forgiveness. I’m torn between forgiving him because he did tell me and leaving him because he did what he did. I have already purchased my wedding gown. What would you do?
A. I would get rid of him and the gown. I think his “slip up” makes a serious statement about his character, and this indiscretion could very well set the stage for more after you’re married.
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