by Sarah Smart
Q. I just found out that my best friend’s mystery man is my married brother, and my sister in law just informed me that she suspects my brother is playing around. She has a very volatile temper and plans to follow him until she catches him. I am in a real crossfire, because my sister in law trusts me with her secrets, but I feel obligated to tell my brother that she’s suspicious, because I don’t want to see him get hurt. I’m also afraid my sister in law will feel that somehow I’ve betrayed her, if she does find out. I’m in the middle, and I don’t know how to get out.
A. Tell your brother and your friend that his wife is suspicious and plans to follow him. I mean, there are “secrets” and then there are secrets. This is not a secret to keep. You’re right. Someone could get hurt. In any case, your friend could stand a little shakeup to perhaps jar her conscience.
Q. Three weeks ago, my fiancé backed out of our planned wedding for January, stating the reason as cold feet. I almost had a nervous breakdown. I cried for a week, when I learned that an old girlfriend had come back into the picture. Then last week, he suddenly showed up with flowers, and said he changed him mind and he wants to go through with the wedding. I love him, but I’m hesitant. I have bought my dress, and I don’t want to be embarrassed by calling this wedding off. I’ve told no one what he did. What would you do?
A. I would give him back to his old girlfriend, take the dress back, or let it hang in the closet until the real thing comes along. I would also stop worrying about being embarrassed. When a guy calls off a wedding, it’s usually a shout out that things just ain’t gonna work, and it will be far more embarrassing when he’s seen out with ‘ol girl the day after the wedding, which is something I’ve personally witnessed.
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