by Sarah Smart
Q. I have serious admiration for a co-worker and he walks around me like he doesn’t know I exist. I don’t think he’s interested because he won’t even look at me, but my co-workers have convinced me that there’s a strong possibility that he may be interested and afraid to acknowledge his interest. I’m writing to you because I want to invite him to my friend’s party as my date, but I wanted your opinion. What would you do?
A. Nothing. I personally feel no man could be that shy in 2019. It seems that you are doing what a lot of women do…rationalize and separate the truth from a desire. I say, leave him be, until he gives you a reason to continue admiring him. As a rule, mutual admiration doesn’t hide. Meanwhile, feel free to invite him to a party, but not as your date.
Q. I saw my boyfriend out with another woman after he and I had a misunderstanding and broke up. I believed he cheated on me because he was angry with me after the breakup. I want to confront him and patch things up, but everyone is advising me not to because he was out with his ex-wife, who I know he was once crazy about. What should I do?
A. First of all, if you broke up, then he wasn’t cheating on you. Unless you are at fault over the breakup, you need to do nothing but wait. If he’s yours by divine right, he’ll be back.
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