SingleScenes
by Sarah Smart
Q: I’ve been dating a woman on a casual basis who recently introduced me to her friend who just moved here from out of state. The chemistry was strong between us, as we both stood trying to play off the attraction. She was hot and my problem is I want to ask her out, but I’m concerned about hurting the other girl’s feelings. We’re not serious, but she wants to be. However, I feel if I advance on her friend, she’ll be shattered. Right now, I think I should follow my instincts. What do you think?
A. Since a man has to live with himself first, I would suggest you pass on this one for now. You already feel guilty about your feelings and you haven’t acted on them yet. Since you and your “friend” don’t share the same feelings about your relationship, you’re already in troubled waters. If you insist on pursuing this mentally you should discontinue the relationship with the first girl and allow an appropriate amount of time to pass before you seek out her friend, who may or may not be interested.
Q. I had been corresponding with this guy online for three months before we finally decided to meet. We agreed to meet at a restaurant downtown and he told me what he would be wearing. But when I arrived at the restaurant and saw him before he spotted me, I ducked out. I did so because I was thoroughly disappointed with how he looked. He looked nothing like his photo, and he was at least two feet shorter than he said. Now he’s calling asking what happened to me, and I don’t have the guts to tell him that I saw him and I’m no longer interested. What can I do?
A. Lie. The truth would only hurt at this point. Come up with a good excuse that would be acceptable to you if you were in his shoes … like the return of a former lover who recaptured your heart and you didn’t know how to tell him.
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