The Singles Scene
by Sarah Smart
Q. On the train every morning on my way to work, I engage in locked eye contact with the most handsome man, and he never says a word. I’m so hooked on him that I dream of him every night. I know he likes me because of the way he stares. But I’m convinced he’s shy. This has been going on for five weeks without one word being spoken. Should I say something and break the spell? What do you think?
A. I would suggest you cool out. In spite of what you see, he couldn’t possibly be interested. Forget him and find someone more worthy of being dreamed about. If he was interested, he would have made a move by now. Some guys just enjoy flirtation from a distance. Also, he could possibly be married.
Q. Last year, my best friend (who is not my friend anymore) canceled a trip to Paris, the night before we were leaving, because her boyfriend proposed to her and didn’t want her to go. I had to end up going alone. We have been feuding for over a year, because she paid half on the hotel stay, and she feels I owe her since she didn’t go. I feel I don’t. What do you say?
A. I say you don’t. She canceled at the last minute, and there is always a penalty for last-minute cancellations. Her request for a refund is ridiculous and certainly substantiates why the friendship ended.
Q. My boyfriend proposed last month, and I accepted. However, when I asked about a ring, he explained that he would need me to pay ½ on the ring, because he really couldn’t afford to buy me one. My sisters all think I’m crazy because I agree to do so. What do you think, and what would you do?
A. I think that you should do whatever you want to do. The arrangement between you and your guy is personal. Me? I wouldn’t marry a man who didn’t have enough imagination to find a ring he could afford.
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