by Sarah Smart
Q: I got a phone call from an ex-boyfriend last week, who stated he had begun dating my best friend and planned to marry her. He stated that he wanted me to hear it from him. We stopped dating two years ago and prior to the phone call, he was the farthest thing from my mind, but I was upset after I talked to him. Though I pretended not to care, my head was pounding with anger.
When I got off the phone, I called my friend to express my resentment. She thought I was crazy because I’m involved in a relationship. I accused her of betrayal and ended our relationship. I cannot stand the thought of her being with him. What do you think?
A: I think your ego is blocking your judgment. If things are over between you and your ex, why should you care what he does? His phone call to you was admirable. Most men would not have bothered. Examine the facts and your true feelings. You can’t worry about what you can’t change. Be an adult and face the music because this tune will play with or without your permission.
Q: I am engaged to a man who has sole custody of his two sons and they are the most misbehaved kids in the universe. They call me names and spit at me when I ask them to do something. However, when their dad walks into the room, they become little angels. I am stressed out over this situation because I love the man but I can’t stand his kids. I’m afraid to tell him how they treat me because he is so protective of them. I know that one day he expects me to be a mother to his kids, but I’m not interested. I am perplexed. What can I do?
A: You need to tell him the truth. He needs to be in on the disciplinary action. Then you need to try to use your feminine skills to charm and seduce those two little monsters into liking you. Remember, despite how they act, they might be able to be managed through your creativity and imagination. Remember, you’re the adult. Put your heart to the task and see what happens. If it doesn’t work, then you need to make the decision that gives you the most satisfaction.
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