The Singles Scene – 7-25-21

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  Against my better judgment, I am dating a guy with two children.  The problem is that I don’t like his kids.  They are spoiled and disrespectful.  He has asked me to marry him, and I suspect he’s also looking for a mother for his kids because he has custody.  I love him, but I don’t want to raise his kids.  I can’t make up my mind.  My family says I shouldn’t and my friends say I’m being selfish.  What do you say?

A.  You should say no, and move out of his life. If you say yes, you’re asking for trouble, and you’ll bring much pain into his life and yours.  You can’t marry a man, and not like his children.

Q.  My sister and I are very close, but I know something about her boyfriend that I know would affect our relationship if I told her. He is stealing her blind, and because she keeps a house full of company, she is accusing everyone, but him.  I watched him one day go into her purse and steal some money, and when she discovered it the next day, she accused everyone but him.  Some years ago, her then boyfriend was molesting her eleven year-year old daughter, and when she told her mother, she beat her for lying.  She’s one of those women who won’t hear the truth about her man.  What would you do?

A.  Let her find out on her own. Why create a problem for yourself?  Based on your experience with her, I would leave her to her own judgment.

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