The Singles Scene
by Sarah Smart
Q. I am getting married next month, and II’m wondering if I should come clean and tell my fiancée, who is an attorney, that I once served time in prison for rape. Though, it was a bogus charge by a vindictive ex-girlfriend, I am still considered an ex-con. Frankly, I’m afraid that if I tell her, she’ll leave me, but my family is pushing me to tell her. I have a lot of respect for your opinion. What do you think?
A. I think you should tell her because she should know all the truth about you. Keep in mind that if destiny has deemed for you and her to be together, the truth cannot keep you apart.
Q. I’m dating a guy who is attractive and very smart, but he has the worst manners I’ve ever seen. He burps loudly after he eats. He always gets in the car first, and never opens the door for me. He greets friends with me in tow and never introduces me. He drives off before I can barely get out of his car. His behavior borders on rude, but I hesitate to say that, because I don’t think he means to be. Is there any way I can tell him how I feel without hurting his feelings? I really want this relationship to work, but I can’t stand his behavior.
A. First of all he is rude. He may be rude out of ignorance, but he is still rude. Secondly, you have to make the decision on whose feelings are most important, yours or his and act accordingly. Bad manners should never be tolerated for the sake of a little company. Tell him and tell him now, before he gets worse. Remember, we teach others how to treat us.
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