by Sarah Smart
Q. My sister shared with me a secret that her longtime boyfriend was HIV Positive, and I promised not to tell anyone. But two weeks ago, I found out that he was also dating my friend, and she’s been gushing about the relationship. She doesn’t know about my sister, but I’m beginning to feel bothered by what I know, and the risk my friend is taking not knowing. I feel worse about her than I do about my sister being played on. But I can’t tell her about her “new boyfriend” without telling her how I know. What would you do?
A. I would tell them both. The co-worker and your sister should know what they’re up against in this case. It’s their choice what to do with the information. Some secrets should not be kept.
Q. I made a big mistake. I slept with a co-worker, while on the rebound, and I haven’t been able to tell her the truth. I had just broken up with my girlfriend, and she happened to be in the right place at the right time. I allowed myself to be seduced because she had been pursuing me for months, and I finally gave in at a weak moment. It was simply a one-night stand, but she acted as if I proposed marriage. She calls me constantly and is hounding me to take her out again. What can I do? I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I’m tired of ducking and lying.
A. Simply Man Up! Tell her the truth about your “slip up” that night and beg her forgiveness. Be sure to explain your ignorance of how to straighten up a mess.
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