SingleScenes – 2-12-25

SinglesScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  Against my better judgment, I am dating a guy with two children.  The problem is that I don’t like his kids.  They are spoiled and disrespectful.  He has asked me to marry him, and I suspect he’s also looking for a mother for his kids because he has custody.  I love him, but I don’t want to raise his kids.  I can’t make up my mind.  My family says I shouldn’t and my friends say I’m being selfish.  What do you say?

A.       You should say no, and move out of his life.  If you say yes, you’re asking for trouble, and you’ll bring much pain into his life and yours.  You can’t marry a guy, and not like his children. 

Q.        I’m an attorney.  In a very lonely state one night, I got weak and invited the doorman in my building, who had been flirting for months, up to my apartment for “a couple of drinks,” and things went too far.  He was always calling me “pretty girl” and it all came to a head on a night when I was very vulnerable.  I came home from a blind date gone bad and male attention is what I needed.  The problem is that I’m not at all interested, and now he claims to be in love.  He’s a good-looking guy, but he’s not my type.  Though I explained later that I had made a serious mistake, I can’t get rid of him?  Any suggestions?

A.      Tell him the truth, and ask him to forgive you if you led him to believe that you were available.  Be a grown-up.  It’s important that you convey to him that you weren’t at a great place that night, and you regret that you pulled him into your drama with no intention of tricking him.

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