by Sarah Smart
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to marry him, and I’ve said yes. I agreed to marry him because he’s mainly financially solvent, he’s good to me, and he loves my children, but I’m burdened by the fact that I’m still in love with the father of my children, (though there’s no hope there. ) I love him, but I’m not in love. Should I tell him the truth about my feelings and give him back his ring…or should I do what’s best for my family and try to make the best of it? What would you do?
A. I would tell him the truth and give him back his ring. It’s called doing the right thing.
Q. I am currently involved with a man whom I’ve never slept with. We’ve been together eight months and I have refused to sleep with him because I’m saving myself for my husband. I’m in love with him, but I’m standing on my principles. Last month, he promised me an engagement ring if I’d sleep with him, but he said he couldn’t give it to me unless I did. It sounds like a bribe and I’m not interested. My friends say I’m crazy because he’s “such a good catch.” What do you say?
A. I say…stick to your guns. If he loves you for real, he’ll honor your position. Hold out for the ring on the finger if that’s what you really want.
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