From The Flirt Files – Mentionable Moves

From The Flirt Files

Mentionable Moves

by Carli Smokes

Cherrie – “After reading a magazine article on being more assertive, I invited a guy at work to accompany me to a friend’s party.  I liked him, but he didn’t seem to notice me.  I’ll never do it again because I was uncomfortable all evening.  He knew I liked him but pretended that he thought he was being invited under the banner of “co-worker friendship.”  All evening, he avoided my eyes and my getting acquainted questions. Before we left the party, he took another girl’s number right in front of me.

Amy – “It was I who asked my husband out on our first date.  I had to gather up my nerve because he was the finest guy in school and women were throwing moves at him from every corner.  So, I came up with a creative idea to get his attention. I knew I couldn’t be just another pretty face. I bought some play money and put a $100.00 bill in a note that read, ‘If you’ll help me win a bet and be my escort at the Homecoming dance, I’ll split this with you.’  He loved it and agreed to go. At the end of the night, I gave him a $5 bill as his half of the “bet,” and won his heart.  Of course, the rest is history. “

Clarice – “I asked a co-worker out who seemed genuinely flattered, but he turned me down, saying he had a girlfriend who would not approve of him being out with another woman.  I was so embarrassed that I backed down a whole flight of stairs and fell.  That was my first and last time asking a guy out. Later, when I heard that he didn’t have a girlfriend, I felt super rejected.”

Sandy – “I ask guys out all the time and I have never been disappointed if the answer isn’t favorable.  My ego is in check before I approach them.  I asked one guy out for drinks, and he told me bluntly that he preferred to do the asking.  I have found that some men are very intimidated by attractive women.  They often feel that we have so many guys after us, that they fear rejection.  I find that my approach makes it easier for us to get together.  However, once I initiate the date, I let him initiate any further contact.”

Meryl – “I will ask a guy out, but only when I think he’s somewhat interested.  If he’s a little slow on making a move, I’ll take the first step.  But as a rule, I think a woman with a strong ego and a wealth of confidence is the only one equipped enough to approach a guy because rejection is hard to take.  I invited a very handsome guy once to a party I was throwing, after making it plain that I was interested in him.  However, he showed up and ended up talking to every woman there but me.”

Cora – “I proposed to my boyfriend after five years and he immediately said yes.  I got tired of waiting on him, and because I never mentioned marriage, I learned that he thought I wasn’t interested.”

Pam – “I had been hoping and waiting for my boyfriend of three years to propose, but he wouldn’t. So, I decided to propose to him over Thanksgiving dinner at my parents’ home.  I figured he wouldn’t say no, since we were in the presence of my family. But he became embarrassed, nodded a no with his head, and walked out the door.  An hour later, he came back, apologized to my family, and asked me if he could change his mind.  I told him no.  We broke up that same day.”