by Sarah Smart
Q. I am getting ready to be married next month, and I was wondering if I should come clean and tell my fiancée, who is an attorney, that I once served time in prison for rape. Though it was a bogus charge by a vindictive ex-girlfriend, I am still considered an ex-felon. Frankly, I’m afraid that if I tell her, she’ll leave me, but everyone is saying I should. I have a lot of respect for your opinion. What do you think?
A. I think you should tell her because she should know the truth. Keep in mind that if destiny has chosen for you and her to be together, then nothing can keep you apart.
Q. I am on my way to the altar with one guy, but I’m in love with his best friend. Our huge wedding is four weeks away and each day I realize that I settled for this guy because I couldn’t have his friend. His friend is very involved with someone else and is not remotely interested in me. However, I cannot go on with this farce. I wish to call the wedding off, but my mother is insisting that I go through with the wedding because my fiancée is such a good guy and so much money has been spent.. She believes I’ll eventually fall in love with him, and my family is also very concerned about the embarrassment. What do you say?
A. This is one time I would not take my mother’s advice. If you haven’t fallen in love yet, it is most likely you won’t. I suggest you tell your fiancé you are not ready to be married. There is no point in telling him the truth. It will serve no purpose. You also need to tell him as soon as possible. The sooner you tell him…the sooner he can get started getting over you. Thank goodness, you came to this realization before the wedding.
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