by Sarah Smart
Q. I’m on my way to the altar and I’m only in love with the groom’s best friend. Our wedding is four weeks away and each day I realize that I settled for this guy because I couldn’t have his friend. His friend is very involved with someone else and not remotely interested in me. However, I cannot go on with this farce. I want to call the wedding off, but my mother is badgering me to go through with it because my fiancé is a good guy who I’ll eventually fall in love with. My family is also very concerned about the embarrassment of calling the wedding off. What do you say?
A. I would not take my mother’s advice. If you haven’t fallen in love yet, it is most likely you won’t. I suggest you tell your fiancé that you are not ready to be married after all and tell him as soon as possible. The sooner you tell him…the sooner he can begin getting over the hurt. Thank goodness, you came to this realization before the marriage.
Q. What does a man do when a woman tells him she needs to end the relationship because she has a lot on her mind and just needs some “air.” I’m very confused because we have been very much involved, with talks of marriage, children, etc.?
A. If she insists on “air,” give her that space without pressure and then wait. If she’s for you, she’ll return. She is either no longer interested in the relationship or a relationship. You don’t have to understand….just accept what she says.
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