SingleScenes – 10-5-23

 SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I live with my boyfriend, but I feel like a boarder living in his house without privileges.  He has certain house rules that I must abide by or he threatens to put me out.  Though I live here, he won’t give me a key because he doesn’t want me here when he’s not home.  I have no family or friends here, and I have nowhere to go.  When I get off from work, depending on the weather, I go to the library or the park until he comes home.  I don’t know what to do or where to go for help.

A.  Whether you realize it or not, you are a victim of domestic abuse, and you need to seek help.  Everyone deserves their independence and a safe home they can have access to.  Please call the Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-7233.   I know they have the resources to help you.  Stay strong!

Q.  I am engaged to a wonderful guy, but I’m having second thoughts about marrying him because I feel overshadowed by his ex-girlfriend. For one thing, he is always comparing me to her, by what I wear, how I talk, and how I act.  On more than one occasion, he has called me by her name.  Deep down in my gut, I believe he still loves his ex.    However, I overheard his sister say that she left him for another guy.  What would you do in my shoes?

A.  I wouldn’t marry him or any man that I believed in my gut loved another woman.  I think you should follow your intuition and move out of the relationship.  Also, you need to consider deeply if you want to take the chance on being compared to another woman for the rest of your life.  I would guess probably not.

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