This Could Be
by Bonita Bennett
I believe one of the major reasons why our society is so fascinated with celebrities is because they appear to be living the life we all wish we had. There are many people who would like to be rich, and highly respected but are mostly convinced that it is not in the stars for them, because of where they are in life. Unfortunately, only a few of us pursue or ever realize our dreams, and it’s usually because of a lack of ambition and/or confidence in our abilities. They are also those who don’t dream at all because they can’t see beyond their circumstances.
According to studies, in today’s times, the average person does not necessarily see themselves as someone special but will light up when they get a chance to name their favorite celebrity, and why they admire them. It seems too many of us are content to station ourselves in the ordinary realm because we feel anything outside of that is unattainable. But this does not have to be true. I learned early that anything we put our minds to, we can have.
Most of us would like to be doing much better than we are, but subconsciously feel that the good life is only for a fortunate few. But that’s not so. The Good Life is accessible to all who believe they can have it and are willing to pursue it.
True Story: I enjoy telling the story of the woman who was once penniless, but dreamed of being a millionaire. She had five children and was on welfare, but she could cook well, and she saw her skill as a way out of poverty. She prayed for a miracle to achieve her dream and she expected it to happen at any moment. She went to work in a restaurant as an assistant cook, and when the head cook didn’t show up one day, she got a chance to show off her culinary talent in the kitchen. When the owner raved about her cooking, she asked if she could use his kitchen at night to make her delicious pies to sell. He consented, and for no charge. She got the break she was looking for, and she worked tirelessly every night to make pies, which she ended up selling to local supermarkets and eventually specialty shops across the country. She moved from the projects to a mansion in less than two years. Why? Because she had a dream and believed she could accomplish her dream.
The beginning of a new year is an excellent time for those who need or want to contemplate a change in their lives to assume this viewpoint immediately, if not sooner. . But it all begins with a new way of thinking. Example: If you think you deserve a raise, go ask for it today! If you’re tired of the job you’re doing, make the time to seek another. If you’re in a dead-end relationship, stretch out and go solo for a while and feel confident that eventually what you really want will come to you.
Get busy incorporating all those things into your life that you always wish you had, but never took the time to go after. Take stock of your existence. Are you doing all you can to be happy? Assess what you really want out of life. Are you settling for less than the best, because you lack the energy or the mindset to aim high in your goals and aspirations? Do you have any?
Again, I urge you to evaluate, contemplate and then get moving. Work to live up to your potential. It’s your own private possession waiting to serve you. And if you start now, this new year could possibly be the best year imaginable.
Bonita Bennett, founder, publisher Of Being Single Magazine and a former TV/radio personality, is the author of the books “How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams,” and The Coming Of Dawn. She is also a nationally recognized life coach/relationship expert and noted motivational speaker, whose life-changing counseling techniques, classes, and innovative workshops on life skills, interpersonal relationships, conflict management, and problem-solving are well-known in her field. Bonita Bennett is also the editor-in-chief of Being Single Magazine. Be sure to get your copy of her two books…Meanwhile, read the excerpts from the mystery novel…The Coming Of Dawn and How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams