When You Meet Someone Interesting
5 Things To Do…
by Jovan Tahale
- Think friendship first. Start out on a friendship tone when you meet a new guy. Don’t rush into the romance thing too soon. I used to envision each new handsome face I met on my arm, before the first martini arrived. I also dated too many guys I ended up not liking as a person, because I was blinded by the glamour of their outward “package.”
- Don’t Be Overly Sensitized. Everyone can’t feel your flavor. Play it loose. Every man has his type he’s attracted to, and sometimes we fail to fall into his category. This fact should never be taken personally. If you meet a guy, and it doesn’t work out, it simply means it wasn’t supposed to work out. It took me a long time to learn this lesson. I was often caught up in feeling rejected, unqualified, and less than, whenever I didn’t get a follow up call after a first date, but I know better now.
- Don’t be mirror obsessed. When you’re on a first date, don’t run to the ladies room every five minutes to check your face. Many guys see this action as being overly self-conscious, which translates to low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.
- Don’t overuse your imagination. Don’t create your own definition of his words, and don’t interpret his signals to fit your mode of thinking. Never try to rationalize what you don’t understand regarding his behavior. Seek clear cut answers to whatever questions you may have by simply asking him.
- Give the authentic test. Every guy who looks good, acts good and smells good ain’t necessarily good. I’ve been fooled by the best, and I had to learn the lesson by being bumped on the head several times. It’s not what he drives, but what he hides. A woman must pay close attention and look below the surface to discover the real man.