6 Steps To
by M.K. Allison
December 10, 2018
At a party recently, I noticed several women sitting alone waiting for someone to notice them and give purpose to their being there. Most stared off into space, while others complained loudly that the men in the room were backward because of their failure to approach. I watched from a position of comfort as I stood in the midst of three guys I’d enticed into a debate about a controversial current event, while trying to decide who was the most interesting.
Those women and others like them, often lose out on an enjoyable evening because of their inability to mix and mingle assertively with the opposite sex. They are often trapped by ego, tradition and the ancient idea that a man should seek them out in some obscure dark corner.
Unfortunately, these women keep themselves from taking advantage of the usual social situation, because of an inability to understand and the basics of being noticed and engaging at a gathering designed for this activity. Those who are having fun at such gatherings seem to have a fundamental feel on how to do so.
A woman should never sit at a party, unless she’s tired or involved in a conversation. She should always be where the action is, which is usually where they’re serving drinks or near the dance floor.
A woman should work just as hard at being noticed as she does on her job, if she’s at an event with the intention of meeting a member of the opposite sex. However, seldom is this accomplished by flash and super seductive clothing. Distinctive is the password. Not outlandish.
It is important to work to be distinctive and not appear to have a look that screams pick me, pick me.”
She must have a competitive look (she cannot look like Aunt Sadie at the country fair, with looks that look unkempt and expect Mr. Charm to walk over Ms. Gorgeous to talk to her.) and a vivacious spirit which succeeds in being projected even while conversing with female counterparts.
Women who sit on the sidelines and let good moments pass them by are really missing the boat. And a good time should not always mean finding a potential lover. It could also mean finding a new friend or making good contacts for future profit, whether it be personal or financial, or just enjoying the party.
For those of you who are in on all the “right” parties and you still leave alone feeling discouraged, here are some tips on how to have big fun..
1. Wear something unique. Do not be a clone of everyone else.
2. Have a look that mixes flair with classic.
3. Smile at everyone. Don’t just smile at the men.
4. Don’t run in groups. One girlfriend is enough to take to a party.
5. Watch your facial expressions. Don’t sit and look bored. If you’re bored, leave. People who look bored have a tendency to be boring.
6. Don’t expect someone to light your fire if your light is out. Shine!