7 Things To Know
Before You Go On
Another First Date
by Cheryl Lakes
You have just received the phone call you’ve been waiting on. The new guy your sister has been raving about is on the phone wanting to know when he can meet you. She’s impressed…and you’re impressed with how he sounds. You can’t wait. It’s been awhile since you’ve met anyone appealing, and this guy sounds like a winner. He wants to meet you tomorrow…and you’re ready. But wait…slow down. First, you’ve got to understand The 7 First Date Rules.
- Never set a date the same week of the initial contact. Always, always, set it up for the following week. You must never give the impression that you have nothing else better to do. After all, you are ( if not, you oughta be) a busy person with a life already.
- The initial date should be breakfast, lunch or evening drinks, just in case the attraction is not mutual or the conversation is boring. The Hook-Up: If possible, make sure you meet at the agreed upon location in separate cars if you’ve never met before. You must leave yourself open for a quick getaway in case you need one. Many dates get trapped on first dates due to a lack of chemistry long after their interest has dwindled. Rule of thumb: When you go on a first date you must hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. The key objective is not to waste anyone’s time, especially yours.
- First Date Decorum- Dinner can be too confining and formal for a first meeting. A friend went out to dinner with a guy on a first date and realized after he ordered his third cocktail (in ten minutes) that she was no longer interested and ready for the night to end. However, she felt compelled and trapped because dinner had been ordered. .
- a. If you’re a woman, offer to share the bill if it’s breakfast or lunch.
- b. If you’re a guy, don’t let her.
- c. If you’re interested in the person, ask questions you really want to know the answer to.
- d. Don’t give up your life history on the first date. It comes off like it’s been a long time since you had somebody to talk to.
- e. Relax and be yourself. Don’t pretend to be the kind of person you think this person would like. People who depict their true selves have a higher success rate with the opposite sex, than people who don’t. Be sure to listen carefully to his every word and pay attention. If he tells you that his last wife moved out and left all her clothes and jewelry, head for the nearest exit.
- Don’t ignore unfavorable behavior. On this one, you can’t be staring into his dreamy eyes, and be oblivious to him checking out the curves of the waitress as she takes your order, with lust in his eyes.
- Have an open mind. This person could be your soul-mate. Don’t be too quick to dismiss the first meet as a loss, if you fail to connect from the physical standpoint. If the person is nice to talk to, seek out the beauty spots. We all have at least one, and this person could have some hidden assets that don’t jump out at you.
- Don’t worry about it if you don’t click at all. You could have possibly made a new friend or a great business contact. Make sure the encounter ends on a friendly note.
- Don’t name drop during this first meeting, unless you have a spotless reputation. If you have to clean up your act, don’t connect yourself to the names of people who could possibly give you a bad rap or not speak admiringly or favorably of you..
HOW TO TELL IF HE’S GOING TO CALL AGAIN
You won’t know until the phone rings. Unfortunately, nowadays there seems to be an overflow of guys who will say, “I’ll call you…” and don’t. Then there are those who don’t say anything and do. I dated a guy once who asked for all my numbers after a wonderful evening, promised to call the next day, and never did call, which was a definite indication that he was not nearly as impressed as I was.