Lifestyles
Stressed Over Money?
Do A Budget
And Change
Your Life
by Desmund Adams
February 18, 2019
You’re counting down the days until payday. You can’t wait to get your paycheck so you can buy that new outfit or go out with your friends on the weekend. But as money comes in from your job or investments, it goes right out with living expenses and bills. If this sounds familiar, you probably need a budget to help you take control of your finances. MORE
Abstaining…
Women Who
Wait And Why
by Jovan Tahale
December 26, 2018
More single women are abstaining from sex until they say I do. Some have been married many have not.. However, they all seem to share one common goal…to hold their bodies sacred, until the real thing comes along and that means marriage. I spoke with six women who began abstaining for various reasons. MORE
Alone On The
Weekend?
Try These 7 Things For Fun
by Jan Pitts
December 10, 2018
So…It’s Friday again…or perhaps Saturday night, and you feel sort of blue. You are not depressed or suffering a severe case of the blues. You just feel recreation listless. You don’t have any real plans for the weekend, and no regular companion or date waiting in the wings to escort you out. And it has been awhile. The circus is in town, but you don’t want to go. There’s a winter amusement park just outside the city, but you don’t have anyone who’ll go with you. You wish you could afford a vacation, or you wish you had someone to explore the city with… but you don’t. You’re not looking forward to spending the weekend alone, but what can you do? Well, I’ll tell you what I’ve done, and ended up having the time of my life. MORE
Holiday Hints 
6 Steps To
Enjoying The
Next Party!
by M.K. Allison
December 9, 2018
At a party recently, I noticed several women sitting alone waiting for someone to notice them and give purpose to their being there. Most stared off into space, while others complained loudly that the men in the room were backward because of their failure to approach. I watched from a position of comfort as I stood in the midst of three guys I’d enticed into a debate about a controversial current event, while trying to decide who was the most interesting. MORE
13 Steps To A
Happier You!
by Jovan Tahale
1. Say just what you think…but in polite language. Some will like you…others will fear you, but all will respect you. 2. Don’t go near people or situations that appear unhealthy or suspect from a distance. Save yourself some grief. Listen to that inner voice and walk on by. MORE
How Much
Fun Are You
Having?…
by M.K. Allison
September 30, 2018
Studies show that the average single today is not having as much fun as perceived, because many don’t know where or how to begin. Too many have settled into the routine of life, work and big screen television Therefore, it seems that few set aside real time to experiment and discover those fun things that are waiting to be experienced. Polls show that you haven’t had real fun until you’ve…MORE
Career
16 Ways
To Miss
The Layoff
by Constance Borglow
September 30, 2018
With today’s economy and recession it’s important to note that thousands of people across the country are losing their jobs daily, and a stellar performance at work is now more important than ever! It’s a known fact that when layoffs come, if financially feasible, the best are separated from those who are not considered as such. Here are some tips that could sustain you in such time. MORE
Overheard…
Tales From
The Front…
September 27, 2018
“If he seems too good to be true, he probably is. My ego-driven friend got conned by a “doctor” who swept her off her feet after two weeks of dating. Supposedly, he had relocated his “practice” from the West Coast. She became suspicious because he kept claiming that his money hadn’t been transferred to his bank, and she was footing all the expenses. When I suggested she consider doing a background check, she resisted strongly because she saw it as an attack on her judgment. However, when he disappeared for two days in her brand new BMW, she hired a private investigator and discovered he had given her a false name and was wanted in two states for bigamy. This is the main reason I’m afraid to date a stranger.” MORE
No More Nice Guy!
by Theo McNee
September 24, 2018
Too Nice guys really do finish last. I ought to know because I used to be one. I asked a group of women who agreed that guys who are too nice just don’t cut the grade, to describe what it is that makes a guy fall on his “sword” in his search for romance. Here are a few of the answers that made me wince. Sheryl – “Nice guys try too hard. They work too hard to impress you with their sweetness or pliability. Your time is their time. There is no mystique. After awhile, you get bored.” Nedra – “They tell you too much about them too soon in the relationship. They leave nothing to the imagination. They usually lack excitement or the ability to inspire a woman to follow their lead.”
13 Things
Girls Wish
Guys Knew
by Coco Diong
September 19, 2018
- Never quote on a sporadic basis, various statements or comments from others made favorably regarding your qualities. Let us find out for ourselves.
- We always want to hear what you find special about us. Words are very important to us. Use good ones…liberally.
- Never compliment another woman about her hair or dress, when you are out with us…and never let an evening end without you telling us how beautiful we look. MORE
14 Things Guys
Wish Girls Knew…
by Jake Landis
September 19, 2018
- Don’t take everything we do so personally. We cannot behave, feel, think or talk the way you think we should. Believe it or not, we are not the same. Please allow for the fact that our brains work on a different scale.
- When we want to tell you something, we’ll tell you. Don’t badger us about what’s going on in our heads when we’re quiet. Silence could mean a lot of things. We could be savoring the relationship or be pre-occupied with a personal dilemma we don’t wish to discuss. MORE
Happy Hours
10 Steps
To Satisfied
Living…
by Jan Pitts
August 24, 2018
Slow Down. Schedule time to spend with yourself. In this way, you declare yourself important. Place yourself at the center of your life. If you don’t, why should anyone else?
Mingle More. Join a group that doing something you like. Get out and go where the action is!
Discover The World. Make it a practice to do something you’ve never done before at least once a month and schedule it.
10 Steps To Being
Sought After…
by Lisa Laird
1. Exchange the words “can I” for “may I,” when making a request.
2. Have a good sense of humor.
3. Never ever give accolades to yourself.
4. Smile when you meet a stranger’s eyes.
MORE
Where Are 
The Fathers?
by Theo McNee
July 23, 2018
Last month, I attended a Father & Daughter banquet with my eleven year old daughter at her school and I was amazed at the number of African-American girls who were there without their dads and were accompanied by their grandfathers or uncles. My daughter later told me that many of her classmates didn’t have fathers at home. After we talked, I recalled my own childhood, and how my brother and I and another kid on my block were the only three boys in the entire neighborhood who had a visible connection with their fathers. Everyone else was either being raised by their mother, who was a single parent or a grandmother. MORE
“When I Fell In Love, 
I Never Expected…”
July 22, 2018
“…to walk down the aisle after knowing her for only six weeks.” Bill
“…that she would turn out to be such a loser.” Larry MORE
Inside The
Party Scene
Feelings, Attitudes, Etc..
by M.K. Allison
July 16, 2018
Everybody loves a good party, and a great party is even better. Most describe a good party as good food, great music and interesting people in a great space. For many singles, it’s one of the best places to hook up with the opposite sex, and make some viable connections, but for some it’s a dead-end street. We went to a party and decided to talk to some singles about their attitudes and feelings regarding the party scene The party was on the rooftop of a very upscale hotel in Chicago. The crowd was diverse and eclectic. Here’s what we heard…MORE
For Your Next Party
Play The Game
Of “Secrets”
by Coco Diong
July 4, 2018
I was at an intimate party recently, with about thirty people present, and we were heavily into a discussion on male/female relationships, when the host suggested we play a game called “Secrets.” To play this game, the participants sat on the floor in a circle consisting of five players and a pair of dice. We ended up with four groups. Each person was asked to call out a number before the dice were thrown. If the dice displayed your number, you didn’t have to tell a secret or make a confession, but the rest of the group did. MORE
Bully-Proof
How Free Are You?
by Theo McNee
I felt pure sympathy as I listened to my co-worker vent in profane language her frustration about what just happened to her in a meeting. Another co-worker in the same meeting had not only stolen her idea, which the boss praised as a good one, but when co-worker #1 tried to stop her by asserting herself, co-worker #2 called her a stupid liar in front of her peers. The problem was that co-worker #1 said nothing. She just stormed out of the conference room in tears, and co-worker #2, who was considered the office bully got away with deceit and intimidation AGAIN!. MORE
Sex And
The Single Life
June 11, 2018
C.L. “A sexy body may entice me to come up, but it won’t necessarily make me come back.”
J.D. “When my friend died four years ago from AIDS, I stopped having sex. She was in what appeared to be a committed relationship, and she and her partner both contracted AIDS and died. I’m abstaining because I don’t trust men anymore, and I don’t want to take the chance of sleeping with someone whom I really care about, and he’s sleeping somewhere else. I’m happier now than I’ve been in a long time. I have what I call platonic dates, and I sleep well at night, alone.” MORE
What Not To
Do This
Summer…
by M.K. Allison
June 1, 2018
This is going to be the best summer ever for me, because I’m going to get out and let the wind blow through my hair. I began last week by shining my bike up for long glorious rides along Chicago’s beautiful lakefront. But it’s summertime across the country and singles should be out doing all kinds of things that correlate with warm weather…Bike-riding, beach sitting, alfresco dining, park walks, water sports, amusement parks, bench reading, rollerblading, sailing, boat-riding, canoeing, sunbathing, picnicking, Bar BQ’s, outdoor concerts, travel, etc. Unfortunately, for many, summer serves as just hot weather to perform their same old routines in. MORE
How Healthy 
Are You?
by Dr. Candace Jensen
May 28, 2018
A close friend had been living with severe abdominal pain for months and refused to go to the doctor. Her biggest excuse was that doctors were just out to rip you off, and that they created strange diagnoses just to make the hospitals richer. When she collapsed at work in severe pain, and was rushed to the hospital, it turned out that she had gallstones and needed emergency surgery right away. Another friend kept experiencing shooting pain in one of her breasts and attributed it to wearing the wrong kind of bra. It turned out, after her mother insisted she visit the doctor, that she was in the early stages of breast cancer. MORE
Why Some
Women Don’t
Get Chosen
by Jay Wright
May 21, 2018
It was a Friday night and as usual a few friends and I were out for drinks at our favorite hangout. There was Larry, the stock broker, Johnny, “the real estate tycoon,” William, the school teacher, and myself, the writer. Out of the four of us, William was the only one who attracts women without trying. He is the “playa” of the group. That night, the topic was on why certain women aren’t chosen. I had just met a beautiful woman whom I needed some insight on because I just wasn’t certain about whether or not I wanted to date her. MORE
10 Ways 
To Grow
Your Cash Now
by Constance Borglow
May 15, 2018
Eight months ago, I had a financial breakdown. I was in a store shopping for a new dress to wear to a friends’ birthday party, and when I went to pay for it, my credit card was declined. It turned out that my card was maxed out, but to make matters worse, when I attempted to write a check, I realized that I did not have enough money in the bank to cover it. The dress cost $109.00, and I had $47.00 in my account. I was embarrassed when I had to put the dress back, and I felt even worse when I got home and realized that I had only $20.00 cash on me, and I had five days to go until payday.
25 Ways To Be
Avoided Or
“Unfriended”
by E. Lamberto
- Always have a strong negative opinion ready to express unsolicited on whatever subject, name or event that comes up and be adamant about it.
- Make your envy of others apparent. Be sure to point out the negatives associated with whatever name has been mentioned in a positive light. Example: “She may be pretty, but I hear she’s on drugs.”
- Only call friends and family when you need a favor.
Bad Boy
Training Tips
by Carla Santise
April 21, 2018
Speak Up…Speak Out…Speak Firmly. Too much can never be said on this subject. We must teach people how to treat us, especially those who have the potential to hold our hearts in their hands. Example: Donna met Doug at a conference. Doug was handsome, cocky and a confirmed bachelor, who often bragged about never marrying. The romance bloomed fast with Doug in hot pursuit. But Doug had many bad habits that he had been carrying around carefully from relationship to relationship and for various reasons, had never been motivated to discard any of them. MORE
Hooked Up?
8 Things To
Do When It’s
Not Good…
by Jovan Tahale
- Speak out openly about what’s bothering you. State what it is you don’t like. Stop accepting what you don’t like. 2. If you’re doing a lot of complaining and nothing changes, then you must change. Move away in the active pursuit of happiness. 3. Remember, if you continue to settle for less than best, your partner will have no motivation to change. Don’t be afraid of a “time out.” Sometimes being missed works wonders. MORE
Women…On
Making The
First Move
The Good & The Bad
April 11, 2018
Cherrie – “I recently asked a guy at work to go with me to a friend’s new promotion party. I liked him, but he didn’t seem to notice me. I’ll never do it again, because I was uncomfortable all evening. He knew I liked him, but he pretended he thought he was being invited under the banner of friendship. All evening, he avoided my eyes and my getting to know you questions. Before we left the party, he took another girl number right in front of me. I’ll never do that again.MORE
Better Living
5 Life
Changing
Choices
by Bonita Bennett
If you were to conduct an inventory of your life today, what would it reveal? Are you stuck in a rut? Broke? Going through each day on “automatic pilot” without focus? Overworked and undervalued? Looking for love in all the wrong places? If so, it’s undoubtedly the result of erring in these 5 make or break areas. Think about this…MORE
4 Ways 
To Make A
Good Impression
Looks Are Important
April 12, 2018
- How you dress, groom yourself, and handle yourself in public are all part of your “packaging.” As a product, you can present yourself to be your most appealing, and you can present yourself differently according to time and place. For example, your appearance should differ depending on your geographic area – how you dress and act in Rocky Mountain National Park in Colorado, say, as opposed to Midtown Manhattan. MORE
The “Foolery” Files
The Things We
Do For Love
by Coco Diong
The idea for this article came after I attended a pajama party for a sick friend. There were over twenty women there, and as we sat around drinking champagne and swapping stories, we laughed at the ridiculousness of our past romantic wiles, and how foolish behavior would take charge when the notion of love slyly beckoned for us to follow it blindly. As we talked, I knew I had to document some of the exchange for a larger audience. The names have been changed for obvious reasons. I will begin with me…MORE
Career
How To Get
Promoted
In 10 Weeks
by Cheryl Lakes
March 20, 2018
Last year, I started a new job with eagerness and readiness. I was recently divorced and recuperating from financial ruin. In ten short weeks, I went from a clerk making $8.50 an hour to an administrative assistant making $17.50 an hour. Here’s how I did it. I…MORE
Single Stats
Our Latest Poll
Opinions & Doings
The Women Say…
85% – who have never married are against living with a guy before marriage. 27% – married before, prefer living together before marriage. 34 % – think men who have been married before make better husbands. Specialty classes, the workplace, and wedding receptions are the best places to meet men. MORE
You! 
Interesting
And Fun
To Be With?
You are if you have…
- A sincere desire to please others. A faked, hypocritical interest in others, on the other hand, sounds sycophantic and insincere.
- A good sense of humor. This quality is a saving grace in any conversation, and people who can laugh at themselves without putting themselves down are real winners. MORE
A Status Report
Singles Are
More Powerful
Than Ever Before
March 14, 2018
According to a CNN report, in 2017, the Census Bureau reported that a record number of adults in the U.S. were not married. More than 110 million residents were divorced or widowed or had always been single; that’s more than 45 percent of all Americans aged 18 or older. And people who did marry were taking longer than ever to get there. The median age of first marriage rose to 29.5 for men; for women, it reached 27.4. (These trends are likely to continue: A report from the Pew Research Center a few years ago predicted that by the time today’s young adults reach the age of 50, about one in four of them will have been single all their life. .MORE
Faking It…
Do You
Wear A “Mask?”
by Cheryl Lakes
March 13, 2018
The world at large is filled with people who don a mask daily to disguise their true identities. They usually strive hard to camouflage the real person for several reasons. Fear, low self-esteem, deceit and insecurity are but a few. What about you? Do others usually see the real you, or the face you put on? Do you know any of these people?
Single…Living Alone?
5 Important Things To Know
by Coco Diong
March 9, 2018
There are millions of singles in this country who live alone, and many have no close ties to their neighbors or their families. Studies show that out of those with close friendship ties, only 25% of their friends know who to reach in case of an emergency. MORE
10 Things 
Your Place
Says About You…
by M.K. Allison
March 6, 2018
- No plants in the home usually indicate that a person does not have a nurturing spirit.
- Those with an outgoing spirit are usually ensconced in homes with bright colors and lots of glass.
The Male Room
What Makes
A Woman
Fascinating…
February 23, 2018
Jake – “Women who are smart, (a good combination of book sense and common sense) know that before she can be of worth to a man, she must be of worth to herself, and let it be known. Guys are turned on by women who check them and are smart enough to do it with style and grace.”
Rate Your
Relationship
Should You Be In Or Out?
by M.K. Allison
February 15, 2018
If your relationship is not satisfying and you are not where you really want to be, don’t be afraid to change the scenery. Don’t hang on like this is the only man or woman in the world you could love. It is not so. Picture your current relationship. Is it 70% of what you’d want it to be. No relationship is 100%. But it is reasonable for one to expect 2/3 of what is desired to be present when the heart is given free rein over the head. Are you happy or complacent? Is he/she meeting those needs that are necessary to your spiritual well-being? Can you talk? Does he listen? Does she really care? MORE
My Best 
Valentine’s
Day Ever!
February 10, 2018
Susan: “My boyfriend, who had suddenly stopped seeing me after five months of intense dating, called me on Valentine’s Day morning and asked me to have dinner with him that evening. I had been so blue the night before and had spent the whole evening on the phone being comforted by my girlfriends. I heard he was seeing someone else, and I was distraught at the thought of him being out with another woman. However, I was transformed when I got his call, and was delighted when he told me at dinner, for the first time that he loved me and that he hadn’t realized it, until he stopped seeing me. He gave me a beautiful friendship ring that night and proposed two months later.” MORE
8 Guys
We Don’t
Date Long…
by Cheryl Lakes
February 6, 2018
Talker Tommy – Tommy is basically looking for a listener. He spends all your time together bragging, complaining and pushing his opinions. He does not hear or listen because he’s not really interested in your thoughts or views. He is usually very attractive, (which can stimulate the interest factor for at least three dates) but a bore to be with. Result: You know everything you need to know about him, and he knows nothing about you. MORE
15 Smart 
Ways To
Excel In The
Workplace
January 29, 2018
- If you don’t ask for it, it’s likely you won’t get it. This includes raises, guidance and whatever else you think you deserve.
- Always…always be ready to learn something new. Being susceptible to change puts your name in the pot for promotion.
- Don’t view your job as a social outlet where you get paid to play. Remember, that you were hired to do a job to help the company function well as a business. MORE
If You Plan 
To Marry
This Year
Read This First!!
by Lisa Cregier
January 24, 2018
When I married the first time, I was 31, but very immature. I learned early that familiarity breeds contempt. My husband and I had experienced a torrid love affair and marriage was intended to be the finishing touch to a perfect union. However, it didn’t work out that way. The adjustment of making my private life a shared affair was not totally what I expected. MORE
OVERHEARD…
January 23, 2018
“I hate it when a guy asks if I have children as if he’s asking about my medical history. Single mothers are among the highest discriminated against groups in America. I have been dating off and on about three years now, since my divorce, and every man I meet seems only interested in a casual or temporary fling, because I have three children. I know several women who don’t mention their kids until after the “magic dust” has settled. I’ll never forego my kids for a man’s affection and I feel sorry for women who do.” MORE
Love Lives:
What To Do
When The
Heart Is Broken…
by M.K. Allison
January 15, 2018
So… it finally ended and you think life is so cruel, but time will teach you a valuable lesson. For that same man or woman that you thought you couldn’t live without, will one day be a shadow of a memory. Unfortunately, hurt and pain is a part of living that must be conquered each time it’s encountered. So, stop feeling sorry for yourself and take a good look at the relationship. Did it really have a chance? Were the two of you really compatible? Was it fulfilling for you as an individual? Ask yourself these questions honestly and objectively and then write the answers down and while writing, make a note of the good times and the bad times and see which outweigh the other. MORE
LOVE SKETCHES
Can It Get Too Serious…
Too Soon?
by M.K Allison
December 28, 2017
Tracy had been hesitant at first to get involved with Dan, who had written separated on his job application, but she found his smile and manner to be irresistible. During the interview, she caught him looking at her admiringly, and she was so taken by his good looks that she hired him without even checking his references. Three months later, she moved in with him when her apartment building converted to condominiums. She was convinced that her prayers had been finally answered, and they would marry soon. He claimed his divorce was “just around the corner.” MORE
Are You
Really Ready
For A Relationship?
Part II
by Nicco Micco
December 28, 2017
Step #4. Get out a fresh sheet of paper and again divide it into three columns. In the first section, list all of the disqualifying descriptions from the previous exercise. Then, in the center column list the opposite, positive trait that you’d need from a long-term love. Example: Define the characteristic that you desire in a partner. Maybe it’s “respectful of my feelings, perhaps it’s “altruistic and caring.” MORE
16 Things
Smart
People Do…
by M.K. Allison
December 28, 2017
MEN:
- Get rid of all the sweaters you own with roll collars.
- If you send flowers to a romantic interest, make sure it’s roses.
- Make it a point to do something that’s not altogether “Cool” but fun!
- If you don’t know how already…learn how to swim.
- Make sure your stomach does not distract from the real you! If you have on a quality suit, it will fare better stylishly if you’re able to button the jacket MORE
Are You
Really Ready
For A Relationship?
Part 1
by Nicco Micco
December 16, 2017
Step #1: Grade your relationship readiness
You think you’re ready to settle in with someone for the long haul-but are you sure? This exercise will help you figure it out. For each statement, give yourself a check if you agree.
- I’m done with “just fun;” I want to spend my time with someone I really connect with.
- I’m in control of my life (that is, things are in order, I have no big issues distracting me, and I have time to devote to developing a good relationship). MORE
Your Best Life This Year
How Did You Do?
Your Lifestyle Report
by Jan Pitts
December 8, 2017
Take a look at this year and a close look at your journey. Compare it to the year before. Was it better or worse? This is a great way to examine your life’s activity over the past eleven months and measure your progress and/or growth. See what applies to you as you reflect over the year. Hopefully, this will allow you the opportunity to evaluate what you need to do differently (if anything) in the upcoming year. Check out the points given next to each selection. Calculate your score and let us know how you add up. MORE
10 Things To Know 
Before Your Next
Dinner Date…
by Lisa Laird
November 28, 2017
Recently, I went out to dinner with a new guy I met at a workshop. I must admit, I felt a bit intimidated because he seemed so urbane and well-traveled. We went to a French restaurant, and when the waiter put the menu in my hand, I felt even more intimidated, because I couldn’t understand some of the language on the menu, and he seemed to be well-versed. MORE