The Singles Scene – 9-26-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q. I believe my boyfriend of one year is seeing another woman, and my suspicions were truly confirmed when I followed him one night to a house where he stayed all night. He came out the next morning holding hands with a very attractive woman. I didn’t approach him because I didn’t want him to know I followed him. How can I let him know I know, without making a fool of myself?

A. You’ve already made a fool of yourself by following a man you’re not married to.  What’s the point in letting him know you know?  You do know and that should be enough to say goodbye.  You may reap some weird satisfaction in announcing his “unfaithfulness” to him, but it will only be temporary.  The answer is simple.  If you don’t mind man-sharing, say nothing and remain status quo.  If you do, get lost before he does.  It’s probably just a matter of time.

Q. My co-worker is dating my ex-husband and I hate going to work and encountering her.  He left me for another woman, They have since broken up, and now he’s dating her.  I found out about them accidentally and I’ve been upset ever since.  I can’t stand knowing he’s with her and I’m thinking about quitting my job.  What do you think?  She doesn’t know that I know, and she brags openly about her mysterious boyfriend, and all that they do together. My friends think I’m overreacting.   What do you say?

A. I think you should put your mind over the matter, get on with your life, forget about him and her and find another job before you quit.  Sounds like you’re feeling possessive about something you no longer have.  Grow up, face the music and move on emotionally.  He had to end up with someone.  Why care who it is?

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