Point Of View – The Kind Of Woman Men Want

Point of View

The Kind Of Woman Men Want

by Dale Smith

It happened again.  I began a relationship on good footing, but it slid quickly into nothingness.  The reason was because the woman I was dating was only enjoyable on an intimate level, and I needed more.  We were two different people, and we just didn’t see things through the same looking glass.  Though that’s not a requirement, I think we should at least be in close proximity spiritually and physically as it relates to how we view life.  

 When I informed my girlfriend of six months that I wasn’t happy in the relationship and that it was simply due to our incompatibility, she balked in anger and called me “a stupid perfectionist.”  I disagreed with her and I still do.  Like most men, I just have an idea of what I want, and I don’t want to settle for less at this stage in my life. 

I am in search of a woman whose spirit reflects a good attitude and a healthy level of self-esteem.  She has a lot to offer and she knows it.  The good feelings she has about herself are evident as she relates to others.

 She’s straightforward with a personality that sparkles in the dim light of adversity, trials and disappointments.  She reflects no bitterness or disillusionment regardless of her experiences, and the baggage of her past is left at the door of our beginning.  Her affinity to please others is limited, yet she is gracious and warm to all she encounters.

 She is as comfortable in jeans as she is in an evening gown, and she doesn’t care what her man does for a living as long as he’s happy at what he does.  She’s conscious of the current fashion trends, yet she creates her own style.  She is beautiful, but not because of her chiseled features.  Her beauty shines from within while she does all she can to enhance the covering.  She understands that few enjoy criticism and she avoids expressing it.  Her hair and dress is seldom seen in the same mold, for she sees herself as a woman of many dimensions.

 She can fit in anywhere.  She’s serious, yet mischievous…committed, yet adventurous.  She searches beneath the surface for a person’s good points even when the bad ones are on display.  She’s sassy in speech, but spiritual in deeds.  She’s open, yet mysterious.  People are important to her and they are assured by her touch.  Her actions are not based on what others think, but more on what she feels.  She seeks a man who is comfortable in his environment, yet not limited in his quest for the stars.  Sincerity, sweetness and understanding influence her daily behavior, while fun, laughter and unpredictability are indigenous to her soul.

 Yes, I know what I want, but I have yet to find her.  So I look to the hills from whence comes my help…and my help comes from The Lord, who made Heaven and Earth.  Therefore, I’m convinced that one day He’ll bring this woman before me as the divine selection, and until that time…I’m content to wait.