SingleScenes – 1-31-23

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q. For the last two years, I’ve had a serious attraction to my boss.  And for that same amount of time, he has passed by me like I was a piece of furniture.  Last month, after a free-flowing office party, I finally got up enough courage to tell him how I felt about him.  He never responded and has been avoiding me ever since.  He used to talk to me–now he mumbles without looking at me.  It’s obvious he feels awkward now that he knows how I feel.  I’m so embarrassed that I’m thinking about quitting.  What would you do?

A. I would count it as an experience and chalk it up as a strikeout.  Don’t quit your job without finding another one.  Since you understand his discomfort, you might try to clear the air and send him a regret note apologizing for your “indiscretion.”

Q. My best friend is currently engaged to a guy whom everyone loves and admires.  I was among the many who thought she had landed the best catch in town until I heard last week that this guy has been seen out on several occasions with an ex-girlfriend he was formally engaged to. I want to tell my friend, but I don’t want to hurt her.  However, I don’t want to see her walk into a marriage that could make her unhappy.  I feel guilty knowing about this and not telling her.  What would you do?

A. I wouldn’t tell her unless I saw him myself.  If this guy’s affection is torn between her and another woman, there should be a clear indication that something isn’t right already occurring in the relationship. Unfortunately, one of the hardest lessons to learn in life is that we have to allow our loved ones to cross their own valleys. 

Got a problem or a confession?  We’ve got the answer.  Send us your scenarios regarding The Single Life to beingsinglemagazine@gmail.com and put SingleScenes in the subject line.