SingleScenes
by Sarah Smart
Q. Two months ago, I drank way too much at a wild party and ended up sleeping with a co-worker I was not romantically inclined toward. Immediately, after it happened, I regretted it, because I realized she really liked me and the feeling was not mutual. Since that time, she has been asking for a repeat evening and won’t take no for an answer. She has accosted me at work and on the street about “playing” her, and that was not the case. I just got caught up in the moment, I feel sexually harassed and she’s making my life miserable at work. What can I do to turn this thing around?
A. Maybe, if you tell her the truth, and ask for her forgiveness, she’ll leave you alone. Be sure to use phrases like “… I regret my actions”…or I made a mistake.” These are standard sentences used when a man’s hormones and bad judgment get him in trouble with the opposite sex. And if worse comes to worst, you may need to find employment elsewhere.
Q. My sister has been carrying on a secret affair with my best friend’s boyfriend, and they’re planning to elope soon. I made a promise not to tell. But I can’t sleep at night because I feel I’m betraying my friend. What would you do?
A. Tell her…unless you condone it?
Q. A good friend’s ex-husband asked me out and I’m available. I find him very attractive and I would really like to go. But I know it will make her unhappy. Would you go?
A. You need to make a decision about what’s most important to you. Your availability or your friendship with her. Personally, I wouldn’t go, because I wouldn’t want to violate the friendship or go where she’s been.
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